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It was a love marriage but now my worst fears have come true . After one month of my delivery ,while I was still very weak , my MIL was always giving stress and criticizing ....
I woke up my husband one night , I had fever owing to breast infection .... he just screamed at me for waking him and went to sleep. I was so shocked .
Then one day ( about one month after delivery ) he kicked me so hard that I had a pain in my leg and big scar for over a month . Now he calls it a bad reflex and says he is sorry but I just cant get over it .
I think I should leave him ,is it worth living a whole life with such a person ? No name friend replied. I feel very sorry for you. But try to save your marriage for the baby. New phase of life- with a baby... is causing all emotional imbalance in you and same way in your husband. Give some time... I am sure everyting will be fine soon. dil like you replied. Dear SAD,

It hurts more when you come to know that the person who loved you is treating you so badly now. If your husband kicked you unintentionally and told sorry, then I think you should forgive him. Give him another chance. In case he does it again, talk to him, ask him why he has stopped loving or why he is getting angry with you. Once he expresses his thoughts then you can decide to stay or leave him. In case he does not express but keeps on physically abusing you, then you surely need to leave him. Well about your MIL, she is yet another MIL who illtreats her dil. a dil replied. Hi,

It is sad to know that your hubby instead of taking care of you, hit you and ingnored you at the time when u needed him the most. That is horrible. How can someone do like that ? Couldn't he see that you were going through a tough time. I really don't know how to pacify you. But dear, don't think of leaving your husband. Sometimes we don't understand what is right and what is wrong. Try to save your marraige even if there is a very lil hope. Things may work out the way you want. I have heard of many couples who had a lot of problems in the first few years of their marriage, but eventually things became normal. Some men take a lot of time to build this relationship, may be your hubby is one of them. Have you talked to him about this matter calmly and cooly? Try to make him understand that you love him and trust him and need him the most. Make him feel special, may be he can understand you then. Fighting and arguing only create tension and problems, so better stay out of it, atleast for some time.

You didn't mention that you work or not? How long have you been married now? How long did your mil stay with you? How was her behavior- didn't she take care of you during your delivery?

Keep yourself busy with your baby. Go out, meet friends and talk to your family. Keep posting your messages.

bye.