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my son is now 3 yrs 9 month old.he is little bit shy.it takes arond 5 mins to settle down. but at that moment he ll start something unusual like removing his toys from the cupboard ,running here & there or removing bed covers likewise.oneday what happened we shifted to a new house there one uncle said hello to him suddenly he slept on the sand near by,when i said u shouldnt do like this he doesnt bother me,he went to the near by ground through a muddy way.immediately i hadnt reacted but after sometime i told him not to like that.but in vein.how can i get rid of this problem pl suggest me if any.thank u. Pete replied. Hi Subhalaxmi,

What your child is doing is not unnatural. Its perfectly ok for them to behave that was in that age. Now lets understand why they are shy. These days most of the families are nucleus. So the only people in the house is the Father, Mother and the child. We live in metros that we don' t even have a good neighbor, even if we have nobody talks to each other as everyone is in their own world. So kids growing in this scenario will tend to be shy as they are not exposed to people.

What we need to do is to instill the confidence in them. How we do it is to expose them to public functions, take them along with you for shopping. Go for parties with friends, invite people home.Basically you are spending a lot of time with the outside world for your child to get used to people. Take him to the park every weekend. You can do this on weekends. This way they become bold and come out of their shyness. It will take time and we need to be patience.

It is perfectly necessary for a kid of your age or less to be shy initially. This will avoid strangers coming in contact with them. Its best that your child is shy and sticks with you, rather than be bold and walk away with a stranger.

Speak to them a lot. Even in spite of all the exercise kids still get a little disorganized when they go to another home or when there is visitors at home. This is when they fondle with things like what is available next to them, even clinging to their mother dress. They even show off their toys and other things when guest come home. Well this is natural and its not a problem.

Subha, the idea is not to get worried and panic with the kids behavior. Be cool and try a resolve it slowly. After all they are kids and they do all this coz they do not know.

Cheers !

Pete