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My daughter is very sensitive. Normally she is very good and behaves well. However, everytime she does something wrong and we tell her about it she immediately starts crying. I am afraid that she does not get the point. We cannot tell her anything. We live in the USA with my In-laws and noone can tell her anything that she has done wrong. Don' t get me wrong she listens to everyone and obeys but if she does something wrong and we tell her about it she immediately starts crying. It is like she does not want to hear when she does something wrong. We do not beat or spank her at all. Sometimes my wife raises her voice. But I think this is normal. She is 6 years old and her brother is 3 years old. Please tell me how to deal with this. Pete replied. Hi Jiten,

Kids throw tantrums. They know much more than what we think they know. Never underestimate a 3+ year old.

When you said your kid is sensitive, is it she cries realizing what she has done is wrong? or she cries because you guys point out that, what she has done is wrong?

Kids are smart and they know how to get their work done. But its the duty of the adults to be FIRM and let them know.

You need to speak or punish the child in such a way the child realizes her mistake. Here you need to be FIRM. Its better to make the child realize the mistake rather than spoil its future by ignoring it. Don' t take me wrong when I said Punish.

As for you, you need to continue correcting your kid when she is wrong. She might be using this crying to get rid of you guys talking to her. But make sure you keep telling your kid. This will take sometime, and I am sure your kid will realize that tantrums wont work with you. When the parents get firm, the child know that his or her tricks wont work.

Hope this helps. This is what we do to our 4 year old daughter. You don' t need to be guilty or sad to punish the kid or spank. But make sure the extend of the punishment is to make the kid realize its mistake.

Many at time when the parents scold or spank the kids it goes to the extend of the parents taking out their anger. This is wrong. It should be limited to the kid understanding its mistakes.

If you ask me how long we need to do this as parents. My answer is until the kids know what is right and wrong.

Cheers !

Pete