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Hi friends,

I have a big problem and its related to my sister-in-law (my husband's brother's wife).
She has got a very bitching nature. Whenever my mother-in-law tells her something bad about me
she will come and tell me that with all \";mirch masala\";. It sounds so bad. I respect my mother-in-law she is a fine lady. Although she might say bad about me behind my back, still I feel its okay as she never misbehaved with me in person. Although when my mother-in-law says bad things about my sister-in-law I hardly tell her all that. I just dont' want anyone to fight and have bad feelings about each other. But my sister-in-law would say something which would make me feel very very bad.
I never got along with my sister-in-law, she is kind of difficult to get along. Please suggest what to do, as I always have been very caring of my in-laws, but when my sister-in-law tells me that my mother-in-law said all that I feel very bad. I feel that there's no reason to respect anyone.
Sometimes I feel that she is making all this up and trying to convince me that my mother-in-law is bad. Then I think she might also be making things up about me and telling my mother-in-law. I told my husband about it, he is very understanding. He told me not to worry as we just meet once a while (as we live in a different city) and that time I should behave normal. He also says its easy to spoil relationships than to maintain it.
But I keep thinking about it all the time and it makes me very sad. Has anyone run into such kind of problem. If there's a solution then please share it with me.

Thank you,
your friend trisha replied. Hi Fenny,

I read your message and I think your sis-in-law is someone who gets joy by bitching. Why should you care of what your mother-in-law says behind your back? Just as your m-i-l says things about your s-i-l to you, she may also be saying bad things about you to your s-i-l. Your m-i-l may not be saying bad things about you also. That is also possible. So you don't know what is going on and even if you confront your m-i-l is everything going to be okay? I tell you it will be worse and your sister-in-law will only get joy. Next time she calls and tells you stories just cut her off and change the topic. She will soon get the message. You can even say \";I don't care what people say behind my back.\"; Fenny replied. Thanks friend for your valuable opinion. Ignoring is the best possible solution I guess.
Thanks again! PS replied. First of all,she is not your sis-in-law but your co -sister. Why do you want to loose sleep over silly issues. If your co sister is the back stabber sorts,just ignore her. Maybe she is doing it on purpose to bring a gap between you and MIL. You need not stoop to her level. When she tells you something,just don't show any interest. Once she knows that you don' affected with her comments,she will cut it out. There will always be people who talk behind your back. You can't do anything about it. You have a understanding husband. ONLY HIS OPINION SHOULD REALLY MATTER.