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Behavioural Problems:any suggestions?

2007-01-11

Name: neha hi all,
i have a 3 1/2 year old daughter . ok, she has a 5 1/2 year old friend who is quite backward for his age, that in itself is not a problem. the problem is that he is having a bad influence on her, she is regressing in many ways, she started sucking her thumb and says its ok as he also does it. this is just one among many things. she wants to talk unclearly like him.
just yesterday he wanted to come to my home and he said\";can i bring my house to your house\";, if he wants to say \";can i come now\"; he says \";can i come later\";.
daughter trying to follow this behaviour.
he bawls like a baby and my daughter thinks its cool and trying to do the same thing.
he is the grovelling kind, so now she has gotten used to saying no to him, immediately he says sorry and holds his ears and sits down. i am worried that she is now so used to this behaviour, no one else{her friends} will do this and then it will be a problem for her.
can anyone give me some suggestions how i should deal with this situation? i am at my wits end.
neha

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hi all,
i have a 3 1/2 year old daughter . ok, she has a 5 1/2 year old friend who is quite backward for his age, that in itself is not a problem. the problem is that he is having a bad influence on her, she is regressing in many ways, she started sucking her thumb and says its ok as he also does it. this is just one among many things. she wants to talk unclearly like him.
just yesterday he wanted to come to my home and he said\";can i bring my house to your house\";, if he wants to say \";can i come now\"; he says \";can i come later\";.
daughter trying to follow this behaviour.
he bawls like a baby and my daughter thinks its cool and trying to do the same thing.
he is the grovelling kind, so now she has gotten used to saying no to him, immediately he says sorry and holds his ears and sits down. i am worried that she is now so used to this behaviour, no one else{her friends} will do this and then it will be a problem for her.
can anyone give me some suggestions how i should deal with this situation? i am at my wits end.
neha teena replied. hi neha.
I would sujjest tht you take your kid and go for a stay at your relaitives place or his grand parents place..Your child is very much influenced withat boy so ur first priority is to divert his mind no matter if you have to change your place...Mean while you start being friends with your kid so that he tries to derive the pleasure of his friennd..Go out for shopping,parks,bakeries with ur kid so tht he enjoys ur company.. neha replied. hi ,
i think i have missed out on a few details.
this boy lives in the same soceity, so my daughter meets him everyday when she goes downstairs in the childrens playground to play. if he is not there when she comes down he hears her voice and immediately comes to play.
these are just a few of his shortcomings daily i come across something new.
i told my daughter to play with children of her own age. but she wants to play with this boy.i am scared that if i say too much about him she will get more fascinated with him.
help me plz.
neha

2007-01-11

Name: teena
Subject:

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hi neha.
I would sujjest tht you take your kid and go for a stay at your relaitives place or his grand parents place..Your child is very much influenced withat boy so ur first priority is to divert his mind no matter if you have to change your place...Mean while you start being friends with your kid so that he tries to derive the pleasure of his friennd..Go out for shopping,parks,bakeries with ur kid so tht he enjoys ur company..

2007-01-11

Name: neha
Subject:

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hi ,
i think i have missed out on a few details.
this boy lives in the same soceity, so my daughter meets him everyday when she goes downstairs in the childrens playground to play. if he is not there when she comes down he hears her voice and immediately comes to play.
these are just a few of his shortcomings daily i come across something new.
i told my daughter to play with children of her own age. but she wants to play with this boy.i am scared that if i say too much about him she will get more fascinated with him.
help me plz.
neha

2007-02-21

Name: Chakrika
Subject:

Try this Neha

Hi
I understand your problem.Before marriage i was baby sitting my cousin´ s daughter in my home.She happened to mingle with another girl(with all habits u have mentioned about the boy and the girl was a bit aggressive too) with this sort of problem.

I noticed it just on the second day of her playing with that girl,She began to speak like her,do like her,yell at everyone,spit food from mouth and all stuff.For example,If she wants something she would point her finger at that and shout " oooooo..." .She has never done it before.She clearly would mention the name and ask for what she wanted.I was frustrated.

whenever she imitated this girl I started telling her that she ´ s wrong.She claimed that ´ X´ is doing it so it is correct.I told her that it is a wrong act and when ever she finds ´ X´ doing that my sister´ s kid should tell her that she must not do that.It took a little longer to insist on this.Later my sister´ s kid started telling ´ X´ , ´ this is wrong´ & ´ that is wrong´ (I found her a bit bossy too....but couldn´ t help it.)

When she started telling ´ X´ she must not do something,they disagreed and soon ´ x´ stopped calling her out to play.

Now ´ X´ is alright.She is put up in I std and is a topper too.May be you can give it a try.Ask your daughter to correct that boy.Chances are there for the boy to become proper.

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