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My child liked to go to school and happily went even on her first day..everything was going well then a day her bus came early and I was late for picking her up.. though the bus waited for me. From the next day she started crying while boarding the bus...and boarded when bus aunty promised to take her to zoo.
Then after diwali I had to go to 1 months vacation as it was my sister's wedding. On returning my child 3yrs & 6 months is reluctant to goto school.
She cries whenever she hears the name of school. Saying some child beats her or some maid shouts. I asked her if she wants to change school but she says she doesn't want to go to any school. On leaving her in school she cries uncontroled and even vomits. what to do? I have tried cutting her playing time, not taking her parks etc..but nothing works...any suggestion Padmaja replied. Hi Mona,

I am with 7 year old kid who will be going to 2nd standard after this summer vacation. I am also experiencing the same problem with my kid. Recently we shifted our family to Hyderbad to Vijayawada. It was in mid of the academic year. I thought let me put him in a small school till end of this year and can enquire and put him in a good school. But, You don' t belief for the first few days he was going nice. It was more like a play school. That day when I got the uniform, then the problem started. He was not at all willing to go and was making a big scene at home. I saw a different face of him which I never experienced before. During this period we were with in-laws and there was my co-sister' s kid to play along who is younger to him.

Then I made him to sit and talk. After a great difficulty he could tell me he does not want to go to a small school. He wants only a big school where bus comes and picks him up (as he was used to that) and one more imp. thing to be noted was he didn' t like the uniform. Then immediately I changed his school with all his approvals. Even then he was behaving like same. Initially I used to go and drop him. Then for few days I went with him in the bus. After 1 month he could settle and started going on his own.

Why I wrote point-to-point is usually the only kids are somuch attached to their mothers especially. If the mother is working, we ourselves will have all softcorners for them. So whenever they are on vacation you keep talking about their school friends and events in the school. Even though they don' t tell you they think that they should return to school after vacation. Encourage her to spend time with other children who are very school centric. This might work.

ALL THE BEST! manasa replied. hi mona,
i can understand your problem.she might have enjoyed lot in ur sis wedding with all ur relatives.and she doesnt want to come out of that mood and join the normal school routine.this happens with some kids. but try to send her to school.accompain her to school for a few days,get her home early(if u r not working)for few more days. this may help her.also enquire if really anybody shouts/beats her.be firm with her saying that she has to go to school.give her what ever she likes after coming from school.but not as a bribe.wrap it with a nice wrapper and tell her that, her school maam sent this as she attended the school that day nicely.but remember NEVER BRIBE HER,like saying \" if u go to school i will give u this\" .try to arrange a small get to gether for her school friends at home. so u can closely watch her how she interacts with them.or make her distribute some cookies in her class.hope any one of these will work.by the way where are u from?im from singapore.all the best. each kid makes his/her mother face some unique problems(as mothers feel their problem is the most difficult one)this all part of their brought up.like to hear from u a positive news.