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Hi,

I am a working mother and I have a 5 year old daughter who goes to school . In her school they sell ice cream on some specific days. As all other kids eat the ice creams I use to give her money . Couple of times I use to forgot to give
money.One day the teacher of my daughter told me that she saw her taking money from other kids bags and
eating ice cream. I was very upset and punished her as she should not continue taking money from others and then started
giving money without missing even a single day , it seems now she does not take money from others bag. What ever extra
money she has she gives to her friends.

Now she gets pens from school , We told her not to get anything from the school still she keeps geting things from the
school. I don't understand why she does such things . I asked her and she says as she does not have any new pens and
pencils so she is getting them from school. she has a bunch of pens and pencils at home.When She asks to buy anything
normally we would buy but not right away as it is not possible to buy on weekdays So we need to wait till week end.

Me and my husband both work and we earn a good amount of money . Please tell me what can I do to stop her from taking
others stuff. Do you think I need to stay home and take care of her . Now she goes to full time school If I stop working
she can go to half day. I work because I love to work and I don't like to stay home but I will quit the job if it good for
my kid.

I always tell and talk to her about what is good and what is bad but it seems she listens but does not want to
put it into action. Please tell me what I can do .

Thank you


manasa replied. hi amala,
i can understand your problem.quitting your job does not seem to be the exact and only solution of your problem.u said that u will talk to her about what is good and what is bad but still she does not put into action.does she behave in sameway in everything u say? i mean does she listens to u in other things except this problem?will she put into action what ever u ask to do?if YES is your answer then she might be having the problem with that habit only.to get rid of this habit u can take her to child pscycologist.if she pretends to listen everything and dont bother abt your words later u have to get more and more close to her first.dont quit the job but take a break instead.if thats not possible with ur current job,resign to it and try for another later.first i suggest you to go thru the book\" the DOG trainer's guide to parenting\" by HAROLD R HANSEN. this is a nice book. though the name sounds strange, really we see change in the behaviour of our kids if we follow that book. saying this with my experience. dont yell at her instead try to change her school.dont buy everything what ever she asks.she must know that she is not getting what ever she wants if she wont listen to u.never bribe her.be clear of number of toys/ chocolates u r going to buy when ever u go out.if she cries just return home from shop immediately. never surrender to her tantrums..children will always try to outsmart us.hope im clear