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I am sharing here my family issue here in this public forum, I want people to suggest me what should I do after reading my family issue.

namita replied. Just ignore your parents and show them that you can take care of your wife and children all alone. Spend some money and keep maids at home. Your wife looks to be very sensible person and supportive to you. Most imp. is you both keep your bondage intact bcoz you both are support to each other. Once you are living happily and not bothering about your parents, once they come to know about it, they will automatically stop troubeling you. Right now they are doing it because they know that u get affected dont show any reaction and they themselve will change. Dont worry and waste your time on this stupid issue which goes in every family. Enjoy your fatherhood. Congratulations. Mel replied. Just read your post. There is no Jadu Tona. Not to worry. I will reply to you in detail in a day or two. Just tied down with work but I don' t want you to lose hope in the meanwhile. Please keep your spirits up, enjoy your new fatherhood and focus on your little boys. Will post soon. N Sharma replied. Story starts from 2 years back when I got married with my wife, due to some uncommitted commitments from both the families it happen a big blunder on our marriage night and everything got spoiled in our marriage me and my wife got too much disappointed. and my father thinks that I am only the responsible for all these problems because I interfered in their dealing of my marriage and dowry. me and my wife didn' t forget that bad night of our life. along with these issues I brought my wife to my home after marriage on next day morning.

my father and mom were still blaming me and my wife and saying something everyday on same topic which was unbearable in daily life. then after 1 month I and my wife fedup with all these things and I brought my wife to delhi where I was working in a software company, on this action my mom and dad got angry and started to blame me again that why have you bring her with you with in just 1 month, they said me that I am joru ka gulam and said many bad words to me over the phone, they also said me that my wife has changed my mind , I was also getting angry on their this behavior and replying them with bad words and loud voice on phone. my brother was also living with us in delhi , they said that my wife has also changed his mind also and he is also talking her tone. because of these all issues he left staying with us.

when he left I got offer from a company in south india and I left delhi and joined that company. in new city after 2 months I got news that I am going to be a father soon. when it was her 3rd month running she was facing with much issues so I called up my mom to take care of her, my mom came here but with same expectation from my wife to cook and she was cooking for 3 ppl(me, for herself and my monther) even though she was pregnant and my mom was still blaming me and my wife and for many things happend in past 2 years, then I thought my wife is not getting any support from my mom and sent her back, during these days I also got angry many times on my mom on her behavior.

my mom was also not happy if any one comes from my wife' s mayeka side. but I was helpless and alone in new city and had to go to office and I was not able to take care of my wife. my wife' s delivery was due in november 2012 so when my parent went back to home I asked them many times when will you come here I will book train tickest, they replied me many always dekha jayega abhi bahut door hai time. then finally the the day came I admitted my wife in hospital and doctor said she will deliver babies on same day, so I called again my mom and dad and again asked to come to my place they didn' t replied anything and again started blaming me then I cut the phone and asked my wife to call her mom here for her support in this tough time, she called her mom on phone and asked her to come here. in the evening my wife delivered twin baby boys in 7 month 12 days, I called my mom and dad again and again asked to come here, they asked your wife' s mom is coming why should we come and what is the need of us and again started blaming I again replied them with harsh and bad words and cut the phone.

then after I called my parents and asked them several times to come here always they made excuse and blamed me for everything happened in past including my bad words also. now for some pooja for they asked me to come to their place in UP. because babies are premature I asked them please come down here and do the pooja I cannot come beacuse babies are too weak and it' s too risky for them to travel in unheigenic indian rails for more than 30 hours with two new born babies. they again got angry and said doctors and fool they just dont allow you beacuse they want to make money from you and all these sentences. then I alone did pooja here with my wife as it was important pooja. now they have raised a new issue and saying my wife has done some jadu tona on me as they found some kapoor laung flowers and all in our room in my hometown even thour we are out from there from last 10 months. I strongly do not believe on jadu tona and not my wife. I knw my wife she cant to these stupid things. I am not able to understand how to solve my family issue? please suggest me good opinion.