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Dear friends, i got married 3 years back...i am 4 months pregnant now...i would like to share my experiences..Whenever i want to talk to my SIL only i should only call her and talk...she will not call me even once..Even now i am pregnant i want to call her and inform..She will not call me and congratulate like all others will do..But her parents will aske me to call her and speak to her..(note:sil is not my husband own sister...it is my husband relative.my husband does not have any sister..only one brother). Similarly my mil will not invite me for any function or pooja that is happening in their side..but tell my husband who will inturn tell me..The same way recently my husband uncle and aunt are arriving here..His aunt called us..I picked up and told her that my husband was in office now..will be back in the evening only..Then her aunt told me that \" tell ur husband that we both are visiting your home for 2 days and ask him to call us back\" . I welcomed them..but she didnt give any weightage to that..My point is that why cant she tell me that we both are planning to visit your place..Why she is talking like inform your husband that we are visiting your place..? Am i right or wrong? She is also a DIL like me only..Similarly whenever my sil come here she will never talk to me...instead roam around my husband and talk..i used to maintain smile and cordial relationship with her but sometime i fail when she ignores me.. Regarding my MIL i dont want to tell much about her..as she uses to talk only to my husband..Whether i lose my self respect by talking to these people by simply smiling at them..talking with them..and trying to maintain a decent relationship...I am confused..kindly guide me.. Reshu replied. Hi Anusha, this is one common trouble most of the women face in their day to day life after marriage. Do not worry just stay with your husband rest of the people are going to stay with you for a period. Hardika replied. This is something your husband should look after and he should talk to her sister about this because if you have not done anything wrong then you should know why is she doing this and behaving so rude with you. Ritu replied. There is a certain limit till where you can try to build relations and a point till where you can keep them happy. If they are not willing to make you a part of their family then you should just ignore them and be happy with your husband. Kali replied. Hello Anusha,
We cannot say either yes or no it depends up on the husbands we get because some people never treat them as a human at all and some will respect them a lot so it depends up on our luck.I wish you will understand what am saying. Munna replied. Hi Anusha R,
They are doing such things means it is their mentality,it is not your problem so you just to your husband that you were feeling lonely when they are behaving in such way if your husband is with you,you need to ignore all this. Ashwin replied. what i feel may be the reason, urs s arrange mrg for sure, inlaws treat to a DIL is quite common in this country, basically guys should learn to respect, show affection, moreover sit n listen to wifes words, tragedy is no guy wanna spend 10% of his time spent on mobile to listen to his wife, take ur husband to a temple or any place with positive energy, explain him , he ll understand.. good luck sameer replied. hiiiiiiii sameerpt Gina replied. Tell your husband to show u respect. Why does he go around with this so called cousin if she is rude to her tell him to stopppp noww. As for ur inlaws just tell him to tell them to behave or u need to stop cooking cleaning and looking after him

what is wrong with Indian men they need to grow up??? Kavya replied. try and discuss this with your husband, he mite understand. Self respect is important and you too are part of their family, so they must accept you as their own family member