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Hi all,
I feel very sad that I am born a gal.. I pray to God that I die. I am married 4 months back. Its a love marriage (7 yrs of sweet Love). My IL supports us finacially(though its not reqd .. Both of us are earning).. Sice they support finacially they TOOOO good according to my hubby... I have a BIL too.. They are living in a rented house jus two min from my IL house. I am living with my IL.. Its a very small 2 BH house .. My room permanently occupied by my IL when I am not there, They use my Towels, soap etc., I am from a clean and a hygenic background.. My IL are untidy people.. Dont mind cleaning up their rooms.. My MIL is so lazy that the house is untidy and unhygenic all the time.. Now they want to spoil my room too...
Well after all that I have b' come a great cook .. Cooking for 6 people all alone, My BIL and co-sis eat here daily.. They wait for me to come home at 7.30 and cook dinner.. Well the house wife Princess (my co-sis) jus does nothing except serving to my IL and get good name.. Who asked her to come to my house when she has own for her...
I ignored all these .. I have a acted respiratory problem inspite of taking medicines... I was not able breathe properly for the past 15 days... But not even a single soul to tell .. \" Take Rest! I shall cook or lets get from a hotel\" I hubby knews all but dumb.. We have a dog.. they are very much concern abt it even if doesnt eat for a day or sick... Inspite I working , independent adjusting natured, etc ...I am still down then a dog and treated even bad than a dog... Feeling very sad... Eant to die before I concieve so that my child doesnt grow without a mom...I cry daily nuit .. I dont sleep at all..
My hubby is not willing to move out of the family also as my IL will feel bad... He wants me to be like a daughter to his parents even though I am treated bad then a dog...

ALL THE DOORS ARE CLOSED... I WISH I LEARN TO LIVE IN DARKNESS... Sweetulady replied. Well friend you could try this trick in the mean time.. Donno it might work or not..
You take the intiative of talking to his family memebers... ask them wehther they had food or not whether they would like to have a little more.. try this trick for a week or two.. n check if there is any change..
Try to serve them more and more..and make better dishes at the same time when you are serving tell them all your pains.. tell them that you are very damn tired and sometimes act as of you are about to fall down.. hope it works.. if not

then the second thing is you can spoil the food.. like you can make the dishes bad either adding by little more salt or little more mirchi or by just frying too much on the whole don' t make tasty dishes at all.. just cook with bad taste but make sure you eat in the office or outside properly n then do at home otherwise you would fall sick..

Try the above two trics in a month.. n try to take utmost care of your hubby as it is essential for your bond..Tell him how much you care for him how much you love him daily ask him whether he had food or not though you don' t like doing all these things act atleast for a month or two an dhten you can go ahead with the separation.. if nothign works.. at the end of the day you should be happy .. you should make your life happy no one else can do it..
Its all in yoru hands friend.. n nothing is impossible.. SS replied. HI
Its so sad that women have to go through this always, i also had similar if not exactly same issues(no co-sil as yet) at my Ils place, then after 3 yrs of living in dirty , nagging peopl i decided to move out. I told my hubby am leaving wid or wid out u.
BE BOLD Baby, even i wished dying at times, but now i feel why shud I die for peopl who hav lived life n ours is just beginning. Try separating frm such mean peopl n remember if ur hubby comes bk to u he is urs forevr n if he doesnt he nvr was n doesnt deserv u. We live only once n life is so beautiful, dont spoil it, have ur share of life n happiness, why do u fear if u r financially independent? just enjoy life n liv for urself too. gud luk :-)