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hey everyone
please guide if u ca. i am having a lot of quarrels with my daughter. yesterday she called me irresponsible uncaring and trashed every thing i ahve ever done. she was misbehaved with by my (Hate him)older brother as a child. i have tried to deal with it. but havent succeeded. every now and then those hurt felings emerge and she hates me for not protecting her. i feel very helpless and realize my blindness now. what to do? i have told my sister but she wasnt at all supportive. though i have been very supportive of her all her life. i have hinted to my parents but they too ahvent been supportive of us. they continuse to hide from this fact and protect the son. i am alone in this. my husband does not know. should i tell him? me and my children ahve been thru a lot of trauma. please advise to strengthen our bond and finish our quarrels. sushilaunnikrishnan replied. behave with your daughter very lovingly and dont get angry with her.you just try to find her problems and love her and talk about your problems and make her understand very patiently. V replied. I think you and your daughter need the emotional support of your husband, so if you think he would be supportive please tell him.Severe all ties with your brother and his family and avoid all occations when your daughter has to meet him.Apologise to your daughter and have a heartfelt talk with her saying you would do everything to help her get over this trauma.If possible you both can talk to a qualified counsellor who can address the problem more proffesionaly and delicately. Dont forget that she needs you most of all.Be a solid support to her inspite of her anger and mood swings and stand by her as she finds her way out of this situation.please dont let her down again. Rachel replied. Telling your husband will open up more problems than u can possibly handle now.
Talk to ur daughter, ask her forgiveness, admit ur mistake to her, talk to her how she feels. Break or slowly terminate your relationship with your brother. This can be difficult if u live in the same house as ur brother or even in the same city, but this would be right way. This would also show your daughter that u really mean what u say.

All the best!