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I dont know what to do. my problem is that I donot wish to stay with my inlaws which I am forced to do since last 4 years.I donot get along with them. The reason of staying with them is that my hubby takes care of the family business and my inlaws are very possessive of their son. I hate going back to home from ofiice every day and see their faces and their behaviour patterns day after day. I am feeling very low today and just want to vent out my feelings. It has been decided that we two are finally moving out of this joint family but it will takes few more months. and that wait is killing me . i feel frustated and sad. I have been waiting since years to go away from them and now again I have to wait more and more. My hubby wants to remain a good son in their eyes. I feel stuck with them forever !!! I hate them, they are selfish and wicked. aa replied. hi Ladies, i also feel stuck...my ils complain about me daily, my husb fights with me non sop, i miss my family my brother and sister..hope your sitaution improves. M replied. I understand your situation. We lived with my in-laws after marriage for 9 months. And I used to hate coming out of my bedroom. I hated seeing my MILs face. My hubby is an only son and feels giulty saying anything to them even when they are obnoxious. But, finally after a year, we moved out, but to a place 5 mins away from them. Even now, she tries to control our lives. I had forgiven so many mistakes of theirs. She once even hit me. But, now after 4 years of marriage, I am firm with her. If I don' t want her coming over, I say we are busy or have to go out. I don' t let her come over too much, so she can' t tell me tomorrow that she looked after my son. I have kept her as far away from me as possible. Why don' t in-laws understand that by troubling their DIL, they are also upsetting and traumatising their own son ? Namita replied. i m in the same boat ... me 2 hate to go home .... i can reach home by 6.15 but try my best to kill time some how and reach at 7.30 .... me 2 hate to see them ... we are also looking for house n have planned to shift in 6-8 months but this period is like never ending ... God know when v all vl leave a peaceful life

if you n ur husabnd hve decided abt shifting then keep urself cool ... try to ignore them as much as possible ... have less interaction with them, which vl help you to be at peace ... if they are in one room u stay i another

this i wht i m practicing ... hope v both start njoying our days soon