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hello,
everybody
i belong to a middle class family my father was in govt service and now retired.i had love marraige and me and my husband was in same college,i did computer science engineering and worked for three years,but after my daughters birth i left my job.me and my husband always lived separatley as his job was always in metro cities and my inlaws house is in himachal where he cannot get a job neither i.
now we are staying in germany since two years,and my husband wanted to permanently shift to my inlaws place and start some buissness over there.
i dont have any personal problems with my inlaws but i m really frightened to live together as i never lived with them.And they too live in samll town,where life is not like cities.no gud cinemas,no gud shopping malls and all,no gud schools,no gud medical facilities.i m not sure that i can give up all these things or not,as i like to shop in gud markets,i like to have parties with friends and like to wear nice dresses which will not be possible with inlaws as they even don not allow to wear jeans also.i dont know what will i do if i go there,but at the same time i feel this also that my husband wants to go there and i dont have any rights to stop him,means coz of me he will not go there,as he says that i will not force you to go there and settle but he says that his desire is this that we shud all go there and stay with them for rest of our life,as his parents will not come to us and he is the only son and he wanted to take care of his parents in their old age.and i respect his this feeling also,but really i m scared also that what will be the life if i go there.i m really confused that what shud i do,if i think of myslef then am i being selfish and if i think of my husbands feelings then i will have to kill myself.we have a daughter also,she is three years,i dont know what she will be liking when she will be old.
pls suggests me somehting what shud i do.... pritee replied. hi,

i can understand your concern & u r right about how u feel.

wat i can suggest is that if you can tell your thoughts to ur husband. it will be good for the child also to have basic facilties that she is used to.

ur husband is right that he should take care of his parents in their old age. If your in-laws wont come abroad .. you can all shift in a metro in India where u can get all the facilties & business also.

take a proper channel & communicate to your husband. dont even put down his hometown....

all the best
pritee