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hi i am samantha married 2 years ago.we live in US.my problem is in-laws.MIL stay in bedroom all the day.she wont help me in the kitchen and talk very very less to me.she acts so innocent as if she is very good in front of my husband.she doesn' t do any work and make me do all the work.yes im housewife and not yet started any job.she is perfect in health.but she acts like she is not feeling well all the day.FIL better atleast there someone who talk to me an the house.but he and his wife sits doing nothing all the day.they want to stay forever with us.my husband love them so much.it is so uncomfort for me to live like servant to them.and i cant live like this.i feel happy atleast if she help in the kitchen and atleast talk to me like daughter.i dont hate them but i want them to be active atleast like other people.i dont like MIL see all the day sitting like dum in the house.do i have any solution make her active and talk to people like us.she acts like that but really she doesn' t have any mental problems or any health problems and she is perfectly alright according to her health that prooved in health checkup.
rocking replied. Samantha,
you are in a very happy situation..believe me....take incharge and be a dominating authority in the home(at the same time be nice)...and do this as soon as you can....


there are so many girls where inlaws try to dominate and they feel so suppressed all the time...they feel bad they cant cook food their way, they cant decorate their room their way, they cant eat what they want, they cant shop the way they like....

so cheer up girl....and its the best time to be the power in the house...

let me tell you how....cook what u and ur husband like....this way ur going to have ur husband respect u even more...we all knows guys like to have a girl who can cook well...they get flattered...so do it..u have a chance here...

then in your house...do all the stuff by urself...dheere dheere start talking to ur husband for financial decisons too...u both decide what has to be done...its good na...

then slowly steadily make friends...expand your circle...start ur own social circle and see how u will enjoy ur life...its good that ur inlaws are nt bothering u at all....

so girl, before u start ur job use this time to get an pper hand in the house....this will help u all throguh ur life....take ur decisions and live the way u want to live....

respect the parents inlaw at the same time and do what u want to do for them....so here you are not unnecessarily pressurized to do this and that....

take that advantage and control the things immediately.... lovely replied. honey get a job :) i will write in details later but thats how i did but my mil was good about atleast cooking. Just would cook and i would clean but than when i got a job and some money came in and i got a maid to help us once every two weeks ( i too live in us)