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Role of in-laws:hi

2004-07-10

Name: jessi i'm living in US.please read my problem and tell me the right step.my sil(is in india) we didn't have a good relationship.she always do complaints about me to her brother.i felt so bad about her,after that type of things i start hating her.i don't like her company at all.she try to ask everthing about me and my hubby's relation from my hubby.last night she came for chat but my husband was not at home.she told me that she is coming to her brother's house to stay with us for month.she is coming with her full family(husband,kids).
please please give me some tips of handling her.she use to say \";my brother-my brother\"; all the time,never ask me anything.she don't respect me if i gave some to her she say my brother give me that.i feel ignored in her company.
do i react the same way with her just looking after my hubby and kids and ignor her?or anyother way to make her relise that me and my hubby are not two we are one.please reply me.
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i'm living in US.please read my problem and tell me the right step.my sil(is in india) we didn't have a good relationship.she always do complaints about me to her brother.i felt so bad about her,after that type of things i start hating her.i don't like her company at all.she try to ask everthing about me and my hubby's relation from my hubby.last night she came for chat but my husband was not at home.she told me that she is coming to her brother's house to stay with us for month.she is coming with her full family(husband,kids).
please please give me some tips of handling her.she use to say \";my brother-my brother\"; all the time,never ask me anything.she don't respect me if i gave some to her she say my brother give me that.i feel ignored in her company.
do i react the same way with her just looking after my hubby and kids and ignor her?or anyother way to make her relise that me and my hubby are not two we are one.please reply me.
jessi dil replied. Why do you make your sister-in-law feel that you are affected by her ? Ignore her completely. Invite her and be diplomatic. Dont confront her. This will lead to more encounters. Your husband understands but he might be finding it difficult to console his own sister than you. You have given the answer to your question. Just look after your husband and kids and ignore her.

sonia replied. Jessi I advise you to first read my problems...they are the same as yours...I have also had a very hard time with my SIL..read under Sonia and also read the replies that other ladies have given me.

I understand your problem believe me...my husband did not understand how I was feeling until very recently and we have both decided to confront her and ask her what her problem is with me.

You need to confront her with the support of your husband b4 she comes over to your home.
If she is not willing to change, both of you tell her she is not welcome at your home.
You need to take action as these kind of rude, jealous women need to know that you are no fool and that you and your husband are one.
Good luck
Let me know how it goes.

2004-07-12

Name: dil
Subject:

Be patient

Why do you make your sister-in-law feel that you are affected by her ? Ignore her completely. Invite her and be diplomatic. Dont confront her. This will lead to more encounters. Your husband understands but he might be finding it difficult to console his own sister than you. You have given the answer to your question. Just look after your husband and kids and ignore her.

2004-07-13

Name: jessi
Subject:

hi dil
i think you are right.thaks a lot your advise.i should invite her and concentrate on my kids and hubby.
thanks again.

2004-07-10

Name: sonia
Subject:

same here....

Jessi I advise you to first read my problems...they are the same as yours...I have also had a very hard time with my SIL..read under Sonia and also read the replies that other ladies have given me.

I understand your problem believe me...my husband did not understand how I was feeling until very recently and we have both decided to confront her and ask her what her problem is with me.

You need to confront her with the support of your husband b4 she comes over to your home.
If she is not willing to change, both of you tell her she is not welcome at your home.
You need to take action as these kind of rude, jealous women need to know that you are no fool and that you and your husband are one.
Good luck
Let me know how it goes.

2004-07-11

Name: jessi
Subject:

hi sonia

hello sonia i read your problem and feel as mine.i did told her that she is not welcome in my home if she react like that with me but she again challenged me that she is going to come in her brother house not in mine.my hubby is not saying anything to her.i tried a lot but he said i don't want to spoil relation with my sister.i can not sleep in nights due to this i have 3 months old baby too.but he don't care about my emotions.he care about his sister emotions.if she say "can i come in your house inspite of that your wife don't want me"? he said of course you don't have to ask me this is your house.i feel so insulted.i told clearly to hubby if she will come in this house then i will leave.he said don't worry i'll do something when she is going to come.i'll arrange her staying any other place.but he is very angry with me because i refuse to welcome her in my home.now she is trying to be nice with me so that i can welcome her.how funny when i need their support they never give and now they are expecting from me to welcome them.they always taunt me, blame me, make a big fights in between me and my hubby.i don't understand why my hubby is not understanding my feeling.how he can easily understand her.i'm his wife and staying with him but i guess she is more closer to him.i don't no what is the other reason to refuse her to come in.it's good that your hubby is supporting you.you are lucky but in my case i'm alone.my in-laws are also with her because they are her parents and my in-laws.
please give me some suggestions to Handel this situation.
waiting for reply.

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