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Role of in-laws:help needed

2007-12-06

Name: aaaa I have been reading the problem and solutions here for quite sometime and really glad that people help in solving the issues.
I am a problem regarding my DH' s aunt(father' s sister) and her son. Me and my DH are staying in a diiferent city away from our in-laws as we both are working.
My DH helped his cousin get a job in our city. So he shifted and his mother came to help him settle down. They stayed with us while looking for a house. But gradually we realised that they wanted that his cousin would continue staying with us. His cousin is younger to both of us. But he does not respect both of us. He uses my DH like anything both financially and every possible way. His cousin orders and insults me and dominates in every possible way. He tries to get closer to my husband and intereferes in all our personal matters also. Both of them during there stay were exploiting us extremely. She being a woman never used to help in household matters. I reach home at 10 and then would see that i have to start cooking as nothing would have been done. I felt so frustrated. My DH will also not tell them anything as they are relatives. Both us did not encourage the idea that his cousin would stay with us. And finally after 1 month they searched for and shifted to a house. Even after shifted they would demand that every weekend my husband would take them for outing and spend a lot on them. Now i lost all the respect for his aunt and even any kind of feelings for his cousin. His Aunt has now gone back to her husband for 2 months. She will be back in feb. Till then i can relax for sometime but his cousin keeps on coming. I dont talk to him nowadays. I husband is also aware how much his cousin has hurt my feelings. But he says that he cannot stop his cousin from coming.
I dont talk to to his cousin bcoz i cannot take up any more humiliation and i dont like answering back. Please tell me am i wrong in not talking to him. What should i do ?

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