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Hi Girls,
I am facing a lot of my problems since the day i got married because of my in-laws.initially by husband was nice(though its a love marriage), but slowly he changed completely.he is basically a mama's boy so he listens to everything what his mother says.my MIL does like that i should go to my parents place or have much contact with them or do anything for them.she wants all the importance to be given to her which is not possible always.and the thing is that i have started hating her for dominating my life and drifting me apart from my parents.i would not have cared about what she feels but she makes my husband feel that i am wrong always and he fights with me.i stay in mumbai but she is not here but still she controls everything from far.i am 6 months pregnant and because one day i had a fight my hubby and went straight to my parents place,they have stopped talking to me.when i came back i told my husband that i will talk to her,and he told me that i should call them only if i repent on what i have done...but i hadnt done anything wrong.i was very angry with my hubby one day because he had crossed some limits in his carrer(he is a model) and i could see him doing such roles with other girl, so i went mad and though of ending the relationship, so i didnt call up his parents.his parents n my parents stay at same place.noe though i am pregnant my husband doesnt behave properly with me.dont know what to do...
i think we all should find a solution to our problems....
i have started doing following things:
1) Taken a help of my guru, he told me not to seperate for some time as he will try to solve my problems thru prayers
2) started meditating as my guru told me
3) Praying daily
lets see how far these things help.if u have any solutions do tell me
damini sony replied. Hi,
I know what you are going through. I was in the same position as yours. Just hang in there and hope for the best. Concentrate on your baby who needs a lot of care. Never stop being a part of your family ( your mother and father). I did that initially to impress my MIL and husband. But, inlaws are never satisfied and I ended up feeling left out. I have two kids now. Life is tough. Do what you are doing now to drive away the depression. Meditation worked for me. And do not expect any kind of love or attention from your husband. I always wanted it from my husband and never found it. That made me more miserable. So, the key is to stop that desire. Live for your kid. He/she needs you. I wish you all the best.