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hi..
just need some guidance...

I have just found out that my mil has done black magic on my husband...i really dont know what to do...im am dead against all this and dont want to get into it and now it explains to me why my husband has been moody with me...goes into a silent mode and when i ask him he dosent know the reason and they for a few days he will get back to normal but then start again after a few days....
i can believe my mil would stoop to such levels as she has helped her daughter when she was having problems with her mil and took her to some place...i really now dont want to send my son there but how can i tell my husband? Namita replied. i can make out from Sonu' s comment this time that she have developed so much of confidence .... all the best Sonu ... keep it up .... the fact of life is, bad things happens to those who welcome bad people .... if u allow others to make u suffer they will definately do it ... now slowly and with love try to be firm with ur DH about ur chocie of going to IL' s place etc. let him visit N numbers of time .... slowly he vl also resist to go there ... All the best ... stay clam and njoy ur pregnancy with ur DH and child, think less abt those people , avoid discussing abt them with ur DH. SG replied. I was reading all ur replies.U all r right...so what shud sonu do?

Dear sonu now u hv many answers..sm u found right..I myself cant say much but just comprise the options u hv :

1. U shud go thr as less as possible.Not bcos u r scared but bcos u dont feel respected.
Diwali is cmg in a week..why dont u say at last moment ( i mean a day before or so) that u r feeling strssed out..cant exert urself.

2. Regd black magic, as everyone said, just pray to GOD to give u stregnth.As u dont hv anyother option...u cant go urself into it. And u cant tell ur hubby or anyone else. So best way is to Pray.If we remember God by heart & we r right HE always listens us.
Black magic may hv sm effect but it will definately invain in front of God' s name.
And I beleive that God' s name is nothing but a power which makes us see the right path.When we take His name it generates within us.

3.Husband' s moody nature is not necessarily related to tantra-mantra.
Yes it does usually happens when they visit thr family bcos Inlaws inject sm wrong thigs inthr mind abt us & our family.
It used to happen with me when i visit my parents, my hubby never used to call me or if call then say smthing very rude that used to mk me cry.Still it happens with me but now i hv made place for myself and i know that its my home so ultimately i m gng to support him in his any sort of problem. But i understand that this hurts moreover one feels like a puppet with whom smone plays whenever he is in good mood otherwise just like a housekeeper.
So it happens with most of us..doesnt mean that all MIL' s r taking help of blackmagic.

Still u can share withus if u gng thru sm more issues. It makes us feel light.
Hope i hv experessed myself properly and helped u in some way
gg replied. atleast i try to be honest about giving opinion to any1 on this board...coz this is the only place where i discuss my prob ..i was a silent reader all this almost from last 6 motnh u can say i was going thru probs..but i never liked to discuss...but i am feeling better discussing my probs with u all...
same way to sonu i advised..i am in off right now whtaever time i get.. i coem to his site...in hurry i type replies ..i may sound rude or my words may create misunderstaning..but trust me ..i ddnt get angry on sonu...or anyhting..
but i wud tell her again sonu pllllllsss keep ur self again away from all this rubbish...its all in ur mind..our hsuband too gets confused moody...n u know when they hv their compplain seesion against us with their mothers its quite noremal their behavior change for sometime...n all boys are same ..when their mother s shed 2 tears n cry about us they tend to hate for soemtimes..those tears of mother do wonders...that doesnt mean ur mil has done black magic...i use to ignore my husband i wud stay blank..now he himself has stopeed atlking about his nother...
dont get into all this black magic i have come across many females who believe in black magic...i hv realised they all talk non sense after soemtime..u dont hv to go far in my mohters side itself..many people believe in this rubbish ..in the sense u can make out soemthingis wrong with them mentally...that is y i said once i am happy with my husbands family ...they are far away from all this...namita has given example of bhul bhulaiya...then i will gv u example of amir khan' s bro ...faisal khan..see he was doing black magic on his bro..n see where he has landed..thesse tantrik' s they brain wahs u compeltely...
i gv u another exampel my neighbour' s cousin she had lovely joint famlily ..very rich people complete movie types happy family..they had huge aprtment...
that lady got very expensive cell phone for her college going daughter ...she lost in one day..they went to soem baba in our area..he said that ur sil (jethani) has stolen that coz she was jealous..he gv her some rice n said u go home n to eveyr one to eat n they will speak the truth ..she did that ..but the enitre famly felt insulted..they had that rice but this created rift between all ...they made police complain too...after few days her daughter came to knwo it was stolen by her best freiend in college...but the whole family seperated...tell me whose gain whose loss..u open papers ...n go thru incidents..if these tantriks coould change ur destiny every second tantrik would hv been mukesh n anil ambani of this country...
i suggest sonu if u belive in blank magic all the time u wl be thinking about ur mil ...slowly thi will take all ur peace of mind...
u better take care of ur family ur hausband n son ...rest let them go to hell...by the way i know one thing these baba' s charge u a lot for black magic ...if possible .tell ur husband to stop giving her money if she is wasting on these tantriks...
this is my opinion...n i respect every one s thinking..
as a huamn being it was my duty to stop u from believing this..anyways its ur life..n i respect ur belief...
u know better ... Namita replied. sonu is under pressure where she is not getting happiness and main prob. is the differences bet. her and her husband, in such situation psychologically any human being starts believing such things, it automatically comes ... when something is going wrong in our life, then v look at every situation in negetive way n thts wht is hapening with Sonu.... so pls. girls dont misunderstand her ... n abt. black magic, i never denied it in my message ..... neither i m saying tht black maggic' s exist but such people mis-use human power, we all human beings have sixth sense and tremendous power ... eg. u can watch Bhul Bulaiya movie u can see the blend of black magic and psychology .... anyways ... i jst want to say that like sonu any girl who dont hve any support, all alone and facing so many prob' s with no support of husband is tend to believe or atleast come up with such idea' s ... help her to make it clear dont blame her

DD & GG, i m sorry if i hve hurt u in any way. on chat there are chances of misunderstnding, so dnt misunderstnd me ... bt. i can understnd Sonu' s situation ... we in this board though dont know eachother even then play lot of imp. role in life ... so pls. try to help her sonu replied. hi...

thank for all ur replies...i myself dont want to get into all this but my mil believs in all this stuff and she has taking her daughter to some baba to get somthing done when she was having problems with her mil.....i have seen thing happen in friends aswell where they have been destroyed with all these things...i would never do such things to my inlaws as i believe in karma and what goes around comes around i just want to get it out of my husband. my husband was never like this before and everysince he has been to see his parents he has changed alot....i dont know what is right or wrong but i have to do whatever to protect my family i guess..
i wouldn ever discuss this infront of my son anyway as he is only 15 months and if he was older i wouldnt involve him.
thank for ur advice guys gg replied. rmber one thing its all karma...whatever u do u have to pay for that in this world itself..even ur mil will pay for it...people who indulge in all this i hv seen dont get simple death...trust god ..if u have temple in house go to that n pray to god to save ur hsuabnd n son from this balck magic n go to sleep peacefully... gg replied. hi , dd n namita ...u know i typed reply to this msg but ddnt send coz i said 4 get it its one persons belief..u cANT help it...
but after reading ur replies i wud like to put my view too...
sonu ..which age u r living in...anyways now nobody can help u ..coz u hv started believing in black magic..first of all there is nothing calld magic...n once u start start trusting it then htere is no end to it...very soon even u will get some baba for urself n u too will start doing black magic on your il' s..
very wrong ....i dont agree i u believe in all this what will teach ur childrens..u know i have coem across such childrens who openly say didi u know my dadi has done black magic on us so that we dont study...i am giving u this as an example...
u know this saas bahu prob is faced by every1 but dont get into all this rubbish if an educated person like u believe in all this then illiterate people are better off...
and if i am not wrong i think u have someone like tantrik or baba for self otherwise who else will tell u that ur in laws hav e done black magic on you?

and pls dont tell this to ur husband he wont believe...
dont discuss this on fron t of ur son too...even if ur mil is doing such thing just ignore it nothing will go worng with u..all husbands behave like that moody..irritated...soemitmes they will be in very nice mood soemtimes they will yell at u that doenst mean black magic has worked on him...
initially my husband wasnted to hit me now he cares for me...that doesnt mean i hv done magic on him ... Dd replied. hi,
i agree with namita. i was also waiting for someone else to reply bcs i myself don' t beleive in black magic.
i am not very religious but i also beleive in chanting god' s name, whenever i see some difficulty,for me chant \" shri krishna sharanam mama\" works. it means hey lord krishna take me in your shelter. i learnt it from my grandma in very young age & it works for me so i chant it continuously in my difficult times.
so try what ever u r comfer table with in praying god & he will help u. Namita replied. Hi sonu, i saw ur message yest. bt didnt know wht to reply and was waiting for someone to reply ... but in vain, ... wht i can suggest is u pray to ur God, constantly keep chanting God' s name (whatever u believe in in) .... that vl help ur husband atleast to stay normal ... rest u can handle very well, i m sure u r that bold and smart .... give some time, keep chanting God' s name tell Him to give some solution and see the difference...

i m sorry i dnt know how much u vl believe in this, but, it realy works ... uneed to give some time and faith