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my dear sss..first of all that was just a joke..i am not n illiterate to produce babies for my mil...i am happy with my only daughter...n mil doesnt take care of her i have a maid..alright...n .i have cleaned my mil' s potty with my own hands whn she was not well 4 soemitme...n do u know what i got in return she said in front of every1 that i dont do anywork at home and i went against my parents wishes to get mrrd , a girl who ddnt respect her parents what respect she will gv to us...? n what such girl will take care of us in our old age...
my mil is pretty young not only in looks but also health wise
dont take tension i will produce 100 babies just 4 mils...
n i am frustrated n angry that s y i discuss things on this board. other wise its only me who is taking care of them all alone no one else...n one else will ever do in this world taking care of 15 members...ok..

AND MIND YOU I HAVE NEVER EVER ADVISED ANY ONE ON THIS BOARD TO BE RUDE TO THEIR IN LAWS..INFACT SOME MEMBERS HAVE SPOKEN AGAINST MY OVER SWEET ATTITUDE...

pls read my msg again with a diff point of view... gg replied. i am ok ..not angry on you...
i dont in volve my husband at all ..he is very understanding initially my mil creatd lots of probs btwn us infact it was just 2 weeks we were back from our honeymoon n we had a big fight coz of my mil' s cooked story i can never 4get that night. i felt like my mrrg will end now. that was a time i spoke to my mom she said i had told u not to mrry this guy n long lecture n she went n told 100 people about my breaking mrrg ...that hurt me more. that was a last time i discussed my prob with soem1.
slowly my husband too realised what his mother is. all my family members suportedme but behind her back. i did my best to win her whatever she said i did i never said no to her for anything...
but she use to torture me like anything . she wud never pity on me even when i got preg. i have stayed wo food so many times when i was preg...once my college going younger bro in law started crying like a baby dont torture bhabhi liek this..
inspite of coming from affluent and cultured family i did everything that i had never done in my life not even for my parents ..just to please her thinking one day she will change her behaviour ...but she never
and plus i never came across such person ever in my life who was so rude and inhuman. mentally i cudnt take her i use to be depressed all the time...i use to read this board from a very long time but never discussed my prob with any1 till ocouple of days b4 soem1 wrote abotu prob just like mine n i cudnt stop myself repleying n now i am addicted ....
things changed after my baby her attention was diverted to her,,but all the time she wud toaunt me how she takes care of my daughter... then my bro-in law' s mrrg my sil really gvs her back her own relatives say she is paying for torturing u...
now i am ignoring her n acting pricy now my mil runs after me what is a use i dont have nay respect for her now like b4. jsut bcoz she got kick from other dil now she is scared if we 2 become 1 she iwll land up in soup. she is insecure scared...
trust me i hv never come across character like this ever in my life....but she has changed ...
i come from such a family where dil ae treated like daughter' s my famly is 10 times larger thatn my husbands' but dil in house are not at all harassed liek this...
i am not angry on you infact i am feelling better removing all the secret that was only with me all this time.
my mil paid to god very quickly. she is trying hard to get my attention back. 2 day s b4 she started complaining of very bad head ache she thoguht like b4 i will run after gv massage to her ...but i went to sleep i cant help it if there is any1 who is responsible for this change its she ..herself ...i openly say that i dont have any respect for her now..only thing i am not being rude to her or fighting with her ..i am taking care of her but nothing out of love for the sake of my husband n i know somewhere god is watching...last year this was the same time in front of gananpati she use to torture me ..in one year my ganapati has sent some1 to harass her ...my ganesha has brought tears in her eyes jsut as the way she brought tears in my eyes.
i doubt i will ever change my attitude towards her.
in the end i know i am the only one who take care of her ..no other dil will take care of her...
sss replied. hi gg,
you seems to be very angry at my post.
ok,i have read your earlier messages and have a good impression of you.but really i was surprised to read this particular msg.it was sounding cruel.
any way if it was a joke,i am sorry for being harsh on you.
i never had a bad experience with my own in-laws.so it is a bit difficult for me to imagine in-laws as mean.mine are very loving and i also love and respect them.still i know,i wont be comfortable in a joint family. i get jealous when i see my hubby loving them and vice-versa.i am living separately with my hubby and son.
gg,why dont you try to improve your relation with your mil.see you are a sweet lady.but the hatred that you have for your mil is doing harm to you also.i can see your frustration just from that particular msg.dont you think your hubby would be hurt by this war b/w you two?so for the good of all,try to mend this relationship with your mil.see,from your reply to ujwala i can see that she love your dauhter and take care of her when you are away.so you certainly owe a lot to her.
anyway,all the best to you.hope to hear from you again.and i hope that you wont be angry next time. gg replied. mind you i have never tought of harassing my in laws never or never thought of living seperate with them...
coz i am very very happy in joint family the only prob i have is mil...thats it...
i hv never spoken rudely ever in 2 years or back answered her...that is y they all are with me..other wise they all wud have left me gone away long time back...