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Role of in-laws:Stupid SIL

2007-09-05

Name: Upset Hi Ladies...

My SIL (BIL' s wife) and I communicate often by email..this keeps me updated on whatever is going on at IL' s (we live in different country)..so its like getting weather forecast and carrying umbrella, if it can rain ..anyhow..she is the one of the types who pretend to be very caring (but when it comes to a problem yo ucant find them anywhere), everyone in families know that, but relatives are often flattered by this...lately she is getting on my nerves, in a very recent mail she wrote ' Take care of urself and S' (S=my son)..is she thinking I need to be told to take care of him!!! how can I reply to her? I want to give her a sweet slap..but all I could think of at the moment is toooo rude..please help me here..

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Hi Ladies...

My SIL (BIL' s wife) and I communicate often by email..this keeps me updated on whatever is going on at IL' s (we live in different country)..so its like getting weather forecast and carrying umbrella, if it can rain ..anyhow..she is the one of the types who pretend to be very caring (but when it comes to a problem yo ucant find them anywhere), everyone in families know that, but relatives are often flattered by this...lately she is getting on my nerves, in a very recent mail she wrote ' Take care of urself and S' (S=my son)..is she thinking I need to be told to take care of him!!! how can I reply to her? I want to give her a sweet slap..but all I could think of at the moment is toooo rude..please help me here.. hope2help replied. What is wrong with asking someone to take care? I must be the worst daughter, DIL, sister, friend and everything else because I end ALL conversations with take care. But on a more sensible note I think SR has given you exceptional advice and you should take it. SR replied. Hi
I too don' t see anything wrong in her writing that..... its a general statememnt used end of conversations....don' t look too deep into this.
Let her be fake and pretentious if she wants to.
I think you are irritated at her because she may be closer to your inlaws than yourself (via her fakeness of course).
I am sure your inlaws will learn this themselves some day. You carry on being the way you are.
Does she say good things about your inlaws or bad things?
If her emails bother you too much , write less to her.. if you write less to her, am sure she' ll reply less too.

Good luck. Namita replied. i dnt see ny prob. in this ... u hve developed are negative sense for ur SIL (bcoz of any past experience) n u gt such msg. from the closing mark made by her ... otherwise this is absolutely ok ... infact think that she is in touch with u thru mails giving forecast but also have concern abt ur child Bansi replied. You' re being petty. She has written nothing wrong at all. Relax...don' t look for trouble where there isn' t any! Just my 2 cents worth Amita replied. I did not read anything wrong in what she said. I think you are reading too much into it. If I email someone or get an email from relative saying take care of yourself and your hubby or son nothing wrong in it, just plain ettiqutte.

2007-09-16

Name: hope2help
Subject:

What is wrong with asking someone to take care? I must be the worst daughter, DIL, sister, friend and everything else because I end ALL conversations with take care. But on a more sensible note I think SR has given you exceptional advice and you should take it.

2007-09-07

Name: SR
Subject:

Hi
I too don' t see anything wrong in her writing that..... its a general statememnt used end of conversations....don' t look too deep into this.
Let her be fake and pretentious if she wants to.
I think you are irritated at her because she may be closer to your inlaws than yourself (via her fakeness of course).
I am sure your inlaws will learn this themselves some day. You carry on being the way you are.
Does she say good things about your inlaws or bad things?
If her emails bother you too much , write less to her.. if you write less to her, am sure she' ll reply less too.

Good luck.

2007-09-06

Name: Namita
Subject:

wht is the prob??????/

i dnt see ny prob. in this ... u hve developed are negative sense for ur SIL (bcoz of any past experience) n u gt such msg. from the closing mark made by her ... otherwise this is absolutely ok ... infact think that she is in touch with u thru mails giving forecast but also have concern abt ur child

2007-09-06

Name: Bansi
Subject:

It´ s nothing

You' re being petty. She has written nothing wrong at all. Relax...don' t look for trouble where there isn' t any! Just my 2 cents worth

2007-09-05

Name: Amita
Subject:

What is making you so upset and mad

I did not read anything wrong in what she said. I think you are reading too much into it. If I email someone or get an email from relative saying take care of yourself and your hubby or son nothing wrong in it, just plain ettiqutte.

2007-09-06

Name: May be
Subject:

Thanks

Thanks for your reply...I am just annoyed with her fake attitude..

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