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Role of in-laws:Advice

2007-04-03

Name: SR Hi Girls... even guys are welcome to comment.

I need some advice on something.. I am not sure what to do.

Well the thing is.. my Mom bought me this gold set to wear in my Chundadi ceremony (before wedding)... then after wedding my MIL was going to India to some wedding.. so she borrowed it if she could take my set with her.... she went 1.5 years ago... and last year I was going to some function so asked her back for the set cos I wanted to wear it. She said she cannot find it..I asked her to look for it... and she managed to come with just the earings, not the whole set and says she does not know where it is.
Thats all she says!! I have not worn it since my chundadi ceremony and my parents are not that well off and they struggled to buy it for me.

Therefore my question is - should I ask MIL to replace it or let it go?
I am confused.

Please help.

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Hi Girls... even guys are welcome to comment.

I need some advice on something.. I am not sure what to do.

Well the thing is.. my Mom bought me this gold set to wear in my Chundadi ceremony (before wedding)... then after wedding my MIL was going to India to some wedding.. so she borrowed it if she could take my set with her.... she went 1.5 years ago... and last year I was going to some function so asked her back for the set cos I wanted to wear it. She said she cannot find it..I asked her to look for it... and she managed to come with just the earings, not the whole set and says she does not know where it is.
Thats all she says!! I have not worn it since my chundadi ceremony and my parents are not that well off and they struggled to buy it for me.

Therefore my question is - should I ask MIL to replace it or let it go?
I am confused.

Please help. priya replied. Dear SR
U should ask it.U have that much right to ask for ur jewelery & if she says something or neglect it then inform ur husband.
Next time Take care. dia replied. Hey SR,
How r u doing? Hope u r the same SR met me manytimes on this board .
Sorry dear ,I cant clearly suggest u to waht to do at this moment but wanted to ping u.
In such case,If I were in ur situation, I would have definitely kept quite and would have taken this case as a lesson for not commiting a mistake like believing badly.
Now I have all my jewellary there on my hubby' s request. But manytimes I' m worried about them. Not that I dont believe her.
I had similar experience previously,I had a pattuSaree costed Rs 13,000 and I was pretty sure that I kept it with her . I wore it only once for a function in mil' s home and didnt see later. But last year when I asked for it, she simply said it must be with my mom . I couldnt argue anything because my mom always suggest me to remain silent in such situations. But till now I didnt see that saree. She saw every nook and hook in almirah and said its not there.
Till now, I didnt evn tell this to my hubby. I ddint get a chance to mention it.

But, SR, u can discuss with ur hubby and do what he ask u to do. I guess, in this case he might not be not talking in favour to u.

Keep me posted .Eager to c how u would resolve it and comeout with peace of mind.

2008-02-15

Name: priya
Subject:

U have right

Dear SR
U should ask it.U have that much right to ask for ur jewelery & if she says something or neglect it then inform ur husband.
Next time Take care.

2007-04-04

Name: dia
Subject:

oh dear.

Hey SR,
How r u doing? Hope u r the same SR met me manytimes on this board .
Sorry dear ,I cant clearly suggest u to waht to do at this moment but wanted to ping u.
In such case,If I were in ur situation, I would have definitely kept quite and would have taken this case as a lesson for not commiting a mistake like believing badly.
Now I have all my jewellary there on my hubby' s request. But manytimes I' m worried about them. Not that I dont believe her.
I had similar experience previously,I had a pattuSaree costed Rs 13,000 and I was pretty sure that I kept it with her . I wore it only once for a function in mil' s home and didnt see later. But last year when I asked for it, she simply said it must be with my mom . I couldnt argue anything because my mom always suggest me to remain silent in such situations. But till now I didnt see that saree. She saw every nook and hook in almirah and said its not there.
Till now, I didnt evn tell this to my hubby. I ddint get a chance to mention it.

But, SR, u can discuss with ur hubby and do what he ask u to do. I guess, in this case he might not be not talking in favour to u.

Keep me posted .Eager to c how u would resolve it and comeout with peace of mind.

2007-04-04

Name: SR
Subject:

Hi Dia

Hi

Yes Dia I am the same SR.

I have hinted it to my hubby but he has made no comments back. Looks like he is trying to stay silent.
You know a MIL has no right to do such to things that has been given by the girls parents. She can do whatever to presents her side gift to me.

This is what I was thinking of doing - ask her to look for it once more.. and if she still cannot find it, then I will tell her to keep the earings to as they are no good to me on their own.

Her irresponsible behaviour is really annoying me. Am sure she must have given it to one of her relatives in India.

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