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I just found out I am pregnant with my second child but I have not received the response I thought I would get from my in-laws.
My mother-in-law just started giving me advice about the housework (just carry on as normal.....don't get lazy), my father-in-law does not even want to talk on the phone to me (he just passes it on to MIL ) and my unmarried SIL has not even spoken to me to say congrats or anything.
I did not expect her to say anything but still lived in hope!

I know they will be all over the child when he/she gets here but for the time being they don't have anything nice to say.

I have conceived this child with a lot of fertility treatments which took 6-8 months so I feel he/she is very much wanted.

The good thing is they live abroad so I don't have to see them all the time.

Also I want to call my Mum over this time for the delivery but I'm not sure how to tell my MIL .She came the first time and it was not a good experience.

How do I tell her about my wishes?
I can't be myself around them and find it hard to tell them what I want. nb replied. Just call your MOM and inform your MIL tht she will be there :)
I feel best way to tackle these in law situations is smile and do what you want to do. Dont let them know that they make you angry or have the ability to hurt you.
And yes, if they are not nice its natural for you to not feel comfortable in calling them again. You dont have to feel so weak and Bichari. PLs stand up and do what you feel like.
Enjoy your second baby. All the luck you need and Congrats Archie replied. Hi,
Congratulations on your new pregnancy.
Pregnancy number 1 or 2 is same for parents (you and your husband). This is your own baby and you two should be concerned, as long as you have co-operation of your husband you have nothing to worry. You don't have to expect anything from in-laws or any relatives.
About bringing your mother for deliver, you have lot more time to think on this. But it would be fair to bring your mother and give her chance once, as your mother in law had her share last time.

You need to be emotionally strong to co-operate/cope up with hormonal changes you are going through.

Good luck
Archie Sary replied. Although I do nothave children I can understand how you feel. My MIL and SIL never bother about me.Not on my birthdays, diwali etc. They do not even bother to send me a card or a present when I visit.
It is easy to say do not take their behaviour to heart. but like many things it is easier said than done. But still try not to care- do things you like to keep your self busy- dont care too much about them.take care. Shilpa replied. Actually even I was disappointed during my second pregnancy. While everyone fussed over me during my first pregnancy like making my favorite food, keeping me always happy etc. etc.,everyone seemed cool during my second delivery. Though I was initially depressed about this, I later realised it is unreasonable to expect the same special treatment everytime I am pregnant. My second baby was delivered surgically and I was up on the third day taking care of my two young children. After this I dread the idea of having children. Anyway I don't want to frighten you. Hope you have it all fine during your second one. abc replied. Hi,
Congrats, why do you bother abt you inlaws reaction. i just suggest you be happy and take care of yourself and tell your husband abt your decision to get your mother so that he can speak to his mother directly. you should tell your husband why you want your mother, i am sure he will understand.
bye and take care
abc abc replied. Hi,
Congrats, why do you bother abt you inlaws reaction. i just suggest you be happy and take care of yourself and tell your husband abt your decision to get your mother so that he can speak to his mother directly. you should tell your husband why you want your mother, i am sure he will understand.
bye and take care
abc