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Role of in-laws:sis in law

2004-02-05

Name: vinita This may sound as a strange problem.........but this is one which often leads to fights between me and my hus........he is by nature a very cool person and its me who starts the argument most of the time.....the problem is i am very posseessive abt him.......he has a younger sis who is married and settled..he loves her a lot and always talks about how he used to get her things and how close they are ......some how i cant bear this and think abt it often and make myself miserable .......i feel that he loves her more than me and feel depressed....i cannot bear him caring for any one else including his sisters kids .....
some one please suggest me how i can improve ........pls do not consider this message a silly one and ignore .....

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This may sound as a strange problem.........but this is one which often leads to fights between me and my hus........he is by nature a very cool person and its me who starts the argument most of the time.....the problem is i am very posseessive abt him.......he has a younger sis who is married and settled..he loves her a lot and always talks about how he used to get her things and how close they are ......some how i cant bear this and think abt it often and make myself miserable .......i feel that he loves her more than me and feel depressed....i cannot bear him caring for any one else including his sisters kids .....
some one please suggest me how i can improve ........pls do not consider this message a silly one and ignore ..... nb2004 replied. I have to see this almost all the time. My husbands sister doesnt even live in this country but its still really bugging. We went to visit them last Dec and it was all the time BHaiya BHaiya from her talks. According to her even her kids look like my husband. She doesnt have much respect for her husband so shes all over my husband all the time.
I did all shopping got gifts for her kids and it was still Bhaiya got this Bhaiya got that. So I am no where in picture.
Naturally when i dont get the love i cannot give it too.

Honestly, this will never end. Its a Ghar GHar ki kahani. All you can do is share what you expereince and realise that you have so much company.
Cheer Up sweetheart ! lina replied. Hi Vinita,
First of all your message is not at all silly.I go thr' the same thing, the only diff. is my hubby has a gr8 liking for his elder bro,bro's wife and nephew.Now I can understand and live with that but I find it immensly difficult to deal with the fact that he wants me to feel the same kind of affection for them!!!
I am soooo bugged up with this that I keep on fighting with my hubby unnecessarily and argue on stupid matters bcoz I get a feeling that he does not need me since he has his brothers family to rely on.
We just need to ignore this completely and not let it destroy our peace of mind. anon replied. of course its not silly, my day does not pass without listening to my husband's chanting of his mom's name or sister's name. Now i have got used to it. dont know if u are newly married.

2004-03-16

Name: nb2004
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What can i say !

I have to see this almost all the time. My husbands sister doesnt even live in this country but its still really bugging. We went to visit them last Dec and it was all the time BHaiya BHaiya from her talks. According to her even her kids look like my husband. She doesnt have much respect for her husband so shes all over my husband all the time.
I did all shopping got gifts for her kids and it was still Bhaiya got this Bhaiya got that. So I am no where in picture.
Naturally when i dont get the love i cannot give it too.

Honestly, this will never end. Its a Ghar GHar ki kahani. All you can do is share what you expereince and realise that you have so much company.
Cheer Up sweetheart !

2004-02-06

Name: lina
Subject:

Same story....

Hi Vinita,
First of all your message is not at all silly.I go thr' the same thing, the only diff. is my hubby has a gr8 liking for his elder bro,bro's wife and nephew.Now I can understand and live with that but I find it immensly difficult to deal with the fact that he wants me to feel the same kind of affection for them!!!
I am soooo bugged up with this that I keep on fighting with my hubby unnecessarily and argue on stupid matters bcoz I get a feeling that he does not need me since he has his brothers family to rely on.
We just need to ignore this completely and not let it destroy our peace of mind.

2004-02-05

Name: anon
Subject:

cant help it

of course its not silly, my day does not pass without listening to my husband's chanting of his mom's name or sister's name. Now i have got used to it. dont know if u are newly married.

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