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Hi,
My FIL and MIL are eating up my brain on things that don't matter because they have nothing to do here. They are here(USA) for 6 months. They are obsessive on little things like a drop of water on to counter to a mosquito flying around in the house. They start complaining on such things and make it a huge deal. I need ways to keep them busy. And everything surrounds their son...it is not normal..please help me. If i let her help in on small thing in the house, she start criticizing the way i do thing, even little things like laundry. so i don't want her to get involved in my household chores, because she then starts ordering me to do things her way ( centuries old), that does would with the weather, life here in us. Please help me I am losing my mind. Pooja replied. My inlaws were with me since last 4 months. They truly made my life hell. I also have gone mad keeping them busy and occupied. They donot read nor do have any other hobby. I asked MIL if she likes to do some knitting, she said no.

After some days, this is what I did:

1. I used to play hindi movies. MIL likes to watch family drama. I also played the famous saas bahu serials which are now available on internet.

2. FIL likes to watch cricket, so we took some match connection on internet, other days I used to play cricket matches that hubby had recorded earlier.

3. MIL also took over my kitchen completly and I was like a helper to her. But allowed her to do somethings as it kept her busy.

4. I had to talk a lot to MIL as it keeps her busy and me irritated :((

5. They started going for walks in morning and evenings so I got some free time there.

That was all. But for sure, I also got pissed off. Everywhere is their son, he is this, he is that too much....

I used to simple nod at her comments but slowly also gave back things like he is not all goody goody types...

Hope this helps! jp replied. hi dil,
i am in the same boat as you. my inlaws are also here and trying their best to drive me insane. From the time I get up in the morning till the time I got to sleep I hear complaints from them. I Need some help in how keep this nosey inlaws busy. There's a limit to everything. My mil has crossed all the limits. She now checks all my closets stating she is cleaning them (btw no one asked her to) and then asks me when did i buy this thing or that thing. My kitchen has become and alien land to me since she wants to rule it. My hubby has become a stranger to me as she wants to go out just with him (does't want me to accompany them when mil and fil are going out with hubby.
Day by day i am losing my self confidence. Is it me or its all of you who face the same situation when the inlaws are here? Sonia replied. Dear Dil,
Despair not!!!!.
After all they'll be gone soon, 6 months is only a relatively short time. When you MIL is having a go at you just agree and put everything she says in one ear and out of the other, i know it is hard, but also you don't want them to turn your husband against you. Sometimes the best thing to do is acknowledge all the comments, but know in your own mind that what your'e doing is right. Best of luck.
Sonia X