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Role of in-laws:For Teenabluebell!!!

2006-08-24

Name: Pammi Hi teenabluebell:

My am really sorry to hear your story. YOur husband is taking undue advantage of you.
You are working correct?? Are you in US and if yes which state?? He is playing all these mind games with you because you are all alone in foreign land. First and foremost please do not take physical abuse from him. Next time he hits you or tries to, make sure you tell him that you will call 911 and if need be threaten him and call them. Believe me you will never be harrassed by him again. He basically is using you as a golden goose to make money for him. If he is too busy to open an account for you, go by yourself at your lunch time to the bank near your work and open an account, he does not need to know. Get pay direct deposit in the bank account. YOur hard earned money is for you to keep. And tell him I will pay for my share of mortgage if my name is on house papers. And as it is not you pay for groceries and utilities and let him take care of mortgage.
Teena, If you want I can talk to you over the phone or email you and help you with the situation. I really feel bad for yu because your dumb husband thinks that you are all new in this country and that he brought you here and he owns you. Don't take his crap. He is only doing this because he knows he can get away with this.
Let me know if you need any help or need to speak to.
Take care
Pammi

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Hi teenabluebell:

My am really sorry to hear your story. YOur husband is taking undue advantage of you.
You are working correct?? Are you in US and if yes which state?? He is playing all these mind games with you because you are all alone in foreign land. First and foremost please do not take physical abuse from him. Next time he hits you or tries to, make sure you tell him that you will call 911 and if need be threaten him and call them. Believe me you will never be harrassed by him again. He basically is using you as a golden goose to make money for him. If he is too busy to open an account for you, go by yourself at your lunch time to the bank near your work and open an account, he does not need to know. Get pay direct deposit in the bank account. YOur hard earned money is for you to keep. And tell him I will pay for my share of mortgage if my name is on house papers. And as it is not you pay for groceries and utilities and let him take care of mortgage.
Teena, If you want I can talk to you over the phone or email you and help you with the situation. I really feel bad for yu because your dumb husband thinks that you are all new in this country and that he brought you here and he owns you. Don't take his crap. He is only doing this because he knows he can get away with this.
Let me know if you need any help or need to speak to.
Take care
Pammi
teenabluebell replied. Hi Pammi,

Thanks for the reply. My email id is teenabluebell at yahoo dot com.Would like to get advice on how to solve my problem.

Pammi I dont think i can creat an account now because my husband has already created one as joined account so i tired telling him to create a seperate accout for me but it made him mad so i never ask him about it.I have decided next time he hits me or does something to me i am calling 911.i have had enough i cant tolerate it anymore.To be frank i want to save something for me i cant trust him i dont know what he is going to do next.But i dont know how to do it.I earn and just give it to him i want to buy anything i have to get his permission or i want to buy something for my parents he says no how do i earn this money they gave me this education else would he have married me.I dont know will he ever understand this.I just want him to love and respect him.I have got many good advice from this board and started following it.Lets see how it goes.The most pathetic thing is I dont have anyone in this place no one who I can turn to. Got only my sil who stays in another state and i cant tell her anything cause it will make their entire family happy.I just need a friend who can give me some advice on how to go about cause none of my dumb ideas work.If i was so smart then why would i be into such trouble.After coming and sharing my problem in this board i feel something has got of my heart and my head is clear i have started working well.Hope so i find a way out of it.

Please tell me what should i do.

Thanks,

Teena

2006-08-25

Name: teenabluebell
Subject:

Reply to : Pammi

Hi Pammi,

Thanks for the reply. My email id is teenabluebell at yahoo dot com.Would like to get advice on how to solve my problem.

Pammi I dont think i can creat an account now because my husband has already created one as joined account so i tired telling him to create a seperate accout for me but it made him mad so i never ask him about it.I have decided next time he hits me or does something to me i am calling 911.i have had enough i cant tolerate it anymore.To be frank i want to save something for me i cant trust him i dont know what he is going to do next.But i dont know how to do it.I earn and just give it to him i want to buy anything i have to get his permission or i want to buy something for my parents he says no how do i earn this money they gave me this education else would he have married me.I dont know will he ever understand this.I just want him to love and respect him.I have got many good advice from this board and started following it.Lets see how it goes.The most pathetic thing is I dont have anyone in this place no one who I can turn to. Got only my sil who stays in another state and i cant tell her anything cause it will make their entire family happy.I just need a friend who can give me some advice on how to go about cause none of my dumb ideas work.If i was so smart then why would i be into such trouble.After coming and sharing my problem in this board i feel something has got of my heart and my head is clear i have started working well.Hope so i find a way out of it.

Please tell me what should i do.

Thanks,

Teena

2006-08-25

Name: di bh
Subject:

Can give you some tips

Teena i was in same position 6 months back but i took care of it as i was suffering for a long time i can give u some insight into your problem as i have been there only difference is i am not working and i am also in US.Dont worry u made up ur mind about your next move so u can tackle it at that time.If you leave a message here i will tell u how i tackled this problem. now my husband is scared to even come near me when he is angry as before.

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