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Role of in-laws:Some Issues
2006-08-24
Name: EO



Hi,
After reading so many messages, I feel that I m not alone w.r.t PIL trouble.
But in my case it has gone so far that my relationship with my husband has become bitter. In 7 yrs of marriage I have had enough of them for 5 yrs. when I couldnt take it anymore, and started answering back, and became bad. Now I have 1 yr old son. In our fights often my husband tells me that he will divorce me and will make sure that I dont get to keep my son. Well as far as seperation is concerned I will be happy about it. But I was wondering if we were to fight a case how can he prove that I am not a good mother? Or how can I prove that he is not a good father? He never pays much attention to my son, comes home late form work, and never spends time with him, and he is not good with kids, so I dont feel comfortable if I had to leave my son with him normally for an hour or so even. How can I go about it?
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2006-08-24
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Anonymous Name: SR
Subject:  Oh my God!!!!!!



Listen girl stop your husband from bouncing your child vigourously!!!!!!!!!!!!
STOP IT ASAP!!

This can cause brain haeemorrhage!!!!
THIS MAN SOUNDS LIKE A NUTCASE!!
Please alrt the authorities immediately before he harms your child.
This man does not seem mentally stable.
Here in the UK a nanny shook the child like that (6 month old baby) and killed it.
You can keep your child till he is 18 then he/she is free to decide who they want to stay with.
Please inform the authorities asap.. this man is a danger to you and your child.
Just the other day in the UK there was a murder case of a pakistani man who murdered his wife and kids and has disappeared to Pakistan.
PLEASE ACT FAST!
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2006-08-24
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Anonymous Name: SR
Subject:  Kids and Divorce



Hiya,

Your kid is only a year old!!! At that age the kid needs the mother more than the father. Legally the mother has right to have the kid unless the mother is a criminal or in prison, or alcoholic etc.
Your child is too young to understand who spends time with him more but it is obvious it is a mother that cooks for the child, feeds him, washes him etc.

When your husband tries to threated you that he will keept he kid, tell him to TRY and also tell him you have done your research and the mother has the right to the child and he can get the best lawyer in the world and he still cannot get to keep the kid. So tell him to stop giving you wimp like threats.

You do not need to prove to the courts that you are a good mother. You have the right to keep you child.
Do not worry about it unnecessarily and tell your husband to shut up.
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2006-08-24
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Anonymous Name: EO
Subject:  Thanks



Thanks for letting me know that. My husband sometimes makes scary noises/faces and my son cries, he also bounces him vigrously like a toy..hub enjoys that. I have threaten him many times that I will call police as its child abuse. I was thinking of REALLY doing that. Can you tell me till what age I can get to keep the child, and if there is anyway I can keep my son away from him. I dont feel he is safe with him.
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