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I tried to me nice to my in-laws this time when they visited us, our relations before was not that good, some people u try to be nice to in-laws as a daughter which i tried anyway i tried to put all the negative things on one side, and treated them like my parents, but end up only in criticise and blame , i feel i am an innocent victim of unfair people, they are the same, they still continue to talk back about me to my hubby, though he didn't believe it. Sorry now i gave up, it is not worth doing good to all these people. vs replied. I guess you did the right thing.If your inlaws are hopelessly bad there is nothing much you can do about.What you have now to work on is to not let this bad relationship affect your temperament and your relations with the rest of the family.When ever you think of them keep a punching bag ready and punch it to your heart's content and move on.Remember this is the best period of the marriage when most couples are completely at ease with eachother so dont let your inlaws spoil this for you. jane replied. agree with all of the above....and more. sometimes the inlaws actually make it their mission to destroy your peace of mind. my mil (fil died last year but was a doormat anyway) has made it her mission to abuse me, make me lok bad in other people's lives, tell my husband how i am bad lluck, etc. her favourite son the younger one got married last year....and the girl is apparently a godess! and she wont leave us alone. we have a 7 month old son she will constantly keep coming in the pretext of seeeing him and start a fight abuise me abuse my hisband (who she thinks she should have aborted because he does not worship her). so it is a constant battle to keep our calm and we actially feel very hurt although we never admit that.....life goes on.... SMK replied. I was planning on doing the same. Last time when my in-laws visited us (within 6 months of our marriage), things didn't exactly go too well. The in-laws (i like to call them the out-laws), were very insecure their son being married n all. Before the wedding me n my parents stayed with them for 3 days for shopping in etc. They were extra nice to me. I felt so fortunate at the time. But after a month into our marriage the MIL wanted to take sanyas, which was meant to emotionally blackmail my hubby (they wanted to stay with us right after the wedding). The MIL always interefered in our decisions & tried to correct me all the time. And i am not exactly what you call born with patience. I felt like i was being coarsed into doing things her way. That resulted in a lot of frustration n anger. But i have decided to be nice, more patient & open about my limitations of doing things. At the same time my husband is going to explain to them to take a step back from our lives. Lets see how it goes.
May be some people just don't deserve love. Forget the out-laws.
Life is too short.Be happy.