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Role of in-laws:MIL keeps tabs on us

2003-12-10

Name: I've had enough I'm in a nuclear family with my in-laws living in the same town. We moved out almost a decade ago, very ugly indeed at that time!

The problem lies in that my mil cannot handle it that we can have a good time on our own. She tries to show that she is miserable all the time with no life of her own (ALL RUBBISH!!!). My other half get all emotional and we end up fighting over this.
I have a small child and it is affecting our family time. I am always the one to put time aside for my in-laws but no matter what i do i am always labelled WRONG. Any social gathering she will make it a point to put me down in front of others. In my younger days I would reply back but now I think so much time and energy is wasted for these petty things that we dont realise that we have such limited time, Kal Ho Na Ho?

What has happened recently is that she will negate me in front of my child ie I am made to seem bad as I dont allow fizzy drinks etc during a cough etc!

Whenever my family visit(once a year) she will call up to see whether we are with them or at home. If we are with them then the comments and the guilt trip for my husband about being \";left behind\"; to fend for themselves in their old age, again what rubbish!!!! They go out and about more than we do and I honestly dont begrudge them that as the should be enjoying their golden years as I hope I will be too in the times to come!

What should be done? Please dont anyone say keep away from her as it is not possible as it is not realistic. I've had enough of these comments and attitude.

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I'm in a nuclear family with my in-laws living in the same town. We moved out almost a decade ago, very ugly indeed at that time!

The problem lies in that my mil cannot handle it that we can have a good time on our own. She tries to show that she is miserable all the time with no life of her own (ALL RUBBISH!!!). My other half get all emotional and we end up fighting over this.
I have a small child and it is affecting our family time. I am always the one to put time aside for my in-laws but no matter what i do i am always labelled WRONG. Any social gathering she will make it a point to put me down in front of others. In my younger days I would reply back but now I think so much time and energy is wasted for these petty things that we dont realise that we have such limited time, Kal Ho Na Ho?

What has happened recently is that she will negate me in front of my child ie I am made to seem bad as I dont allow fizzy drinks etc during a cough etc!

Whenever my family visit(once a year) she will call up to see whether we are with them or at home. If we are with them then the comments and the guilt trip for my husband about being \";left behind\"; to fend for themselves in their old age, again what rubbish!!!! They go out and about more than we do and I honestly dont begrudge them that as the should be enjoying their golden years as I hope I will be too in the times to come!

What should be done? Please dont anyone say keep away from her as it is not possible as it is not realistic. I've had enough of these comments and attitude. NO one replied. this woman (mil) has serious issues. Persue, your life as you see fit. My advice, keep your distance from the inlaws. People including inlaws should accept you 100%. I would never give her the time of day. Fine, let her call you ^$^$^$. That never bother's me of other's comments. I myself have been the victim of my so called Mother Teresa grandmother. Boy what a two face (*&(&*&!! Your job, is to be real and love yourself. Talk less and observe more. This I hope helps.

2004-09-25

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this woman (mil) has serious issues. Persue, your life as you see fit. My advice, keep your distance from the inlaws. People including inlaws should accept you 100%. I would never give her the time of day. Fine, let her call you ^$^$^$. That never bother's me of other's comments. I myself have been the victim of my so called Mother Teresa grandmother. Boy what a two face (*&(&*&!! Your job, is to be real and love yourself. Talk less and observe more. This I hope helps.

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