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how to convince a husband to live seperately from inlaws. My husband he works 100 miles away from our house. we bought house here because my sisterinlaw lives here(same community). Now my husband stay over there for 3-4 days and i am staying all time with IL's and sisterlaw's and family now who stayes in our house.
I tried by telling that lets move there so we avoid driving but not understanding and always listen what his parents tell.
sometimes i feel that he has no value of life. I am not here to live life with his family. but he is not understanding what do i have to do? how to convince him?my job is not much important. i can move my job in which city he is working.I don't like life spending much of my time with IL's and his family.
so i work more(overtime) start study... but i am thinking this is not a solution of problem. your friend replied. This problem was faced by my grandmother in her early years of marriage. she was from a good family and after her father died early tragically, she was married off to my grandfather who was a student and living in the city. She was forced to stay in a village and meet him once or twice a week. One day she packed her bags and left to be with her husband, my grandfather. She declared to everyone that she is married to her man and she is goin to be with him whether they like it or not! She faced a lot of problems from her in-laws and her husband who even was very rude to her for a long time. But she din't move and he had to finally give in.

Moral of the story is that only we can change our situation. Donot let your in-laws ruin your life. If there is any shred of decency in your husband, then he will realise that you are his priority and not his family, who have self-centered lives.