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My problem like most of you are my in-laws.I hate my mother-in-law so much.Many things have happened that turned our relationship sour.
Hubby knows my problems but keeps quiet.He has an older bro who lives here and does not plan to move back.Now my in-laws want hubby to move back in a couple of years. I don't know what to do.
He told me i need'nt worry and that although he would like to move to another state and stay close to them and have them visit us etc but he plans to not stay in the same house or city.He also says if i am not fine with that we can continue to live here for as long as we can.
He is very educated and will get excellent jobs in india,but BIL is not and he is better off here.Besides BIL has his wofe's family living here in US.
Now the reason for hubby to move back and them to expect him to seems logical if thhought about with a cool head.But they drive me crazy by saying once you come back we will all love in the same house!!!
I want my husband to tell them that that's not going to happen.In fact he is so understanding that he is even willing to tell them so in a polite manner.But i want to know if that will make matters worse.Won't they start emotional balckmail etc which they do as it is but even more than now?
If it better to tell them we will live with them in future so that they are quiet now and do not harm us with their constant come back conversations?
I don't know what is good for me now.
Please let me know if i should play some trick in such a situation?
Thanks a lot,
Tanmay sumedha replied. Tanmay,
i have same problem like yours. We live abroad (even my hubby's brothers live abroad) and my inlaws want all of us to move back in future. Not only this atleast ur inlaws don't expect your bils to stay with you people. As you said your inlaws say \";once you come back we will all love in the same house!!!\"; My inlaws say when all of you move back we all will stay together in the same house. Now in todays' world how is it possible. But my mil always keep tormenting me about her future plans about this big happy family :(
Which I don't see by any angle.
The only suggestion I would say is let time come and see what can be done. You can never change your inlaws.
Yes you are right just say you will stay with them in future such that they at least keep their mouth shut and don't bother you. Inlaw's constant bickerings can drive you insane. When the right time comes then be smart enough to take your own decisions! Why sulk now!