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Name: zanu

Hi everyone,I am new here. I have been through hell in the 3 yrs of my married life with my in laws.They demanded dowry,insulted my parents,accused them of taking their son away from them and so many other things. Even for theor dauter's marriage last year they behaved rudely when my parents went there and passed sarcartic comments.
The thing is they want to come and live with us here or they want us to go back and live in India with them.They live in a small city so they want to move in with us when we go back.
I don't know how to avoid this and keep thinking.
I am from Bombay and would love to settle down there someday and be close to my family.They are from South India.The thing is theor son lives here in US with is wife and her family is here too.So he will never go back.The daughter got married and is now living in London. So they are expected my hubby and me to move back.
My hubby is good but often gets carried away when his parents emotionally blackmail him.He is secretly applying for their visa and all and wants them to visit us soon. I don't mind but i don't know how i will live with them even for awhile.My hubby understands how bad they are to me but has too much love and sympathy for them.
I fell sick becoa of all this and am going for my next test this week.The thing is my hubby is good to me mostly only when I am not well. When i was not well we did not fight for so many days then as soon as i became well he applied for them to come here and started getting carried away. Now we are going to India in April for a month.I am going for ultasound this week and am scared that my cyst is still there or become worse or something more bad...but if it is not so bad then also I am thinking about lying to him about the results of the test(i can do that as he has no idea about the reports and any medical stuff)
I want him to understand that i am falling sick with stress.That way he will at leats treat me well when we are in india.
What do you think? IS it ok to do that?

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