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Role of in-laws:thx bonny

2006-01-29

Name: anjali sharma hi bonny,
first of all thx.
but bonny i can't say no my parents for not giving them.As my mil says it is mandatory, we also give all this to our daughter.we have to follow r customs.
she makes my husband feels look u married in diff caste n of ur choice.and now how r her parents,we have to be in our caste.these things r humilating for me in front my relatives and etc.
no doubt always in sweet manner.
i knw he feels like sandwich bet me n his mom.i don't knw how to avoid this.my inlaws r frm rajasthan n typical

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2006-01-30

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hi anjali

hi
i am also married in a different caste. i am a bengali married to a marwari guy. in my customs there is a trend to give clothes during durga puja and shud be frm both sides and even during marriage. but in their customs it is only take take and no giving business. i am brought up in a open atmosphere and my mom has always taught me to live with self respect. since i am not following my customs no need to follow his customs....as simple as tht. even as i am pregnant mil wanted to take me to her place and i prefferd staying with my mom as mostly in eastern part of india girls go to there home to their moms during pregnancy. so i have called my mom and she is staying with me for the time being. initially they made a issue out of it but now they have shut up and also i have made my husband understand tht the way my mom will take care of me my mil cant how ever good she may be. its actually the level of comfort and understanding tht u share with ur mom ....well when we marry in different caste i feel its both ways adjustments req and not only the girl shud go on compromising. thts exactly how i feel. u shud talk to ur hubby abt it as he is the only person who wud understand ur point of view.
take care dear

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