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hi,
i need ur advice as i m alone in uae with no friends.i got married 6 mths back.it was love marriage after lots of struggle n fights frm my parents side.initailly my inlaws are also not agree but to they have to when my husband was not ready to marry anyonelse.
i m living in uae n they r in india.my problem is that my mil n sil show n become very sweet n in front of my husband but sometimes they indirectly say many things to me.basically she is sweet ,i mean she is not like typical saas.
but back in india she says many things indirectly to my mother. my inlaws rbhrahim frm rajasthan n they celebrate many festiwals each month there r one or two festiwal in which my mother has to give clothes to my inlaws n sweets n many things which my mil says.
my mil is not happy with watever my parents give.when last time we went to india she told my husband that the sarees n clothes watever we give are very cheap n she feel bad showing things to her relatives.she said nothing to me.she told my mother that they should give cloths to everybody at home including bil , sil n her kid's n family.
when i told this thing to my husband she said i just told to give cloths to me only.
she seems greedy to me as whenever she talks to me n my mother,it was all about wat things are given from girl's family on diff occasions.
i got angry with husband n we had fight him.he is very sweet n caring to all.he supports me everywhere but abt this he thinks that i am showing to him that his parents are demanding.
i don't understd how make him understd about this as i feel bad for my mother,as my inlaws show's that they r not happy with all we give.
my husband is good n care for me but i am shottempered and i am not diplomat. bonny replied. i can understand ur condition. these inlaws always want something or the other frm the girl's parents and there demands are endless. i also felt the same way though my parents give expensive clothing and whtever she has given me are instead cheap . there is no point fighting with ur husband on this as he will afterall take his mom's side regarding how much ever he loves u and cares for u. just keep ignoring the whole matter and i have told my parents not to give anything to them in future. and afterall why they should give? wht ever my mom gives i tell her to give me or my husband and no one else. u have to be strict in certain cases and then u can see how things improve. it is not necessary to follow customs at the cost of getting insulted and when ur mom have to listen afterwards. i think every daughter should be careful abt the self respect of her parents' so tell them not to give ur inlaws and their family anything in future.
take care
byee