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Role of in-laws:hurt by SIL's(co-sis) comment

2005-11-07

Name: rk Hi,
I have been married for 2yrs now and have a 6 mnth old baby and I am currently residing in the US.My BIL's family also resides here.I am a post graduate in comp. sc. and recently decided to study further here and so i have started preparing for GRE.And to my disappointment everyone from my hubby's side have started criticising my decision...especially my BIL's wife(thats my co-sis)....who commented in front of all my in-laws that I should have completed my studies before having a kid,and that i wasted the 2yrs....and now things r gonna be really tough for me.I have no idea how to tackle such comments and these negative vibes regarding my decision to study further have disturbed me a lot.Please tell me how to tackle such people ?

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2005-11-09

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Jealous co-sis

I too had the same problem when I was in US. I was not getting a job and thought that I would join a course. And for that, my mil told that if my husband spends money on me, then one day I will make him bankrupt. Being a hypersensitive person, it took a long time for me to digest those remarks. To compete with me my sil too joined a similar course.My mil and sil are always jealous.

2005-11-08

Name: Friend
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just ignore her words..dont let anything affect your decision.If your hubby is supporting you, why do u worry about ur co-sis..
good that you are studying further. so be confident and dont let anything bother you
Good Luck
-Friend :)

2005-11-07

Name: swati
Subject:

jealousy

shes probably jealous. is she educated?? u havent given her details. how far has she studied??
go ahead with your studies. there is never any harm in studying at any age or stage and especially in these countries. it will b for your benefit only. tell your hubby that u'd earn a bigger paychek and then there r even seniors studying. people r always improving their skills in this market.
convince your hubby only. u dont owe an explanation to any1 else.

2005-11-08

Name: rk
Subject:

thanks...

Hi swati,
thanks for replying....feeling much better after reading ur reply.My co-sis is not much educated...infact she completed her graduation after marriage and after having a kid.But somehow she managed to get a job in US although not a highly paid one....so she somehow feels superior to me.I agree with u that she is jealous of me but somehow such comments tend to take away my peace of mind.Thanks again for ur encouraging words regarding studying further....really appreciate it.

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