Name: jeena
I have never shared a good relation with my in-laws.they have been rude to me and insulted me and my family in many ways in the past.They had even demanded dowry.Whenever i would talk with my mother in law she always had something harsh to say and as for my father in law,he only wants us to come back to india that is all and is always gaining sympathy.
Basically when i got really fed up and one day when i called them,again m mother in law started talking really bad stuff like...hamare bete ne jahan bola humne utha ke shadi kara di etc.
I lost my cool and said that they should be happy in their children's happiness.This is all that is said and she made a huge hoo haa about it and cried to my BIL.My BIL called my husband in office the next day and spoke about all this.
I was shocked to know that instead of being even slightly repentant they made me look like the monster.anyways i hardly spoke to them after that on the phone.Now last month my parents came to usa and stayed at my brother's place.I went to visit them there,and for one month my husband was here.
I donlt know what happened i am sure they have brainwashed him and made him feel guilty for everything,he has changed sooo much.
We were planning to go to india as soon as possible to meet our families.We had applied for visa date and now have got the visa date in january.
The thing is it will be very very cold in north india during this time (i am from mumbai,he from north india)and also for some personal reason we are going to india again for sure in june.
Now what i told him was let us not go now and wait out 5 more months and go in june directly.this way we will save a lot of money and also avoid the cold.we can extend the visa date to later.
but he is adamant and says i have changed my mind only after meeting my parents,that they have brainwashed me and that bcoz i met them now i don't care if he meets his parents or not.
he has been calling me names eversince.
another reason i want to stay is i want to join a class that starts in jan and ends in march.
if i don;t join this then the next batch starts in may and ends in july.again i cannot join as we again have to go to india.
he behaves so miserly when it comes to other things but to go to india 2 times in 6 months he does not mind.
I am actually thinking of walking out as he has become violent with me.
he is so different.
i do not feel like having kids with him as i do not want them to suffer his tantrums and take them to his native place in cold and extreme hot season.the power also goes every now and then at his place.
moreover i do not want my kids to have such grandparents too.
today i might avoid the situations but when i have kids i will have to take themwith me.
plz help as i am going through hell.