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hello siis
i just want to leave my husband. the reasons are too many to mention but i m in hell at present.as i have warned him that if he remains the same i will step out.now he is pretending love and making it difficult for me to leave him. i need a planned way to leave him as soon as possible but i dont know how to.i live in a joint family.i just want to get out.can anyone give me tips how to get rid of him.i m in hell, i feel like killing myself. plz suggest!!!!!!!!!!
i know u will be saying an indian lady is saying all this but when sufferings have no ending then what can a lady do.
plz
thanku
reply soon
no need to ask me that try making up coz now its impossible,what has happened with me is not even cant be discussed coz u will start crying, now my husband and inlaws r trying to be very gud with me,pretending i mean. how do i get rid plzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz USA replied. Hello. Please don't take your life. Please don't think this is the end. Please don't think there is no life for you after this marraige or after you die. If you take your own life, your fate will be worse then it is now or could be if you stay or leave this man. Please dont let your inlaws crush you or defeat you, or kill your spirit even more then they have now. Don't be deceived by the life of this world. It is only a test, a transition to the hereafter. Don't be so overwhelmed by your problems in this world that you take your life and end your chances of any happiness in the end world. Look I know its very bad for you. Is there anyone that can help you? Where do you live? As in what country? I would help you if I knew you. Do you have any trustworthy friends/cousins/ family members? I assume NO because you would not be on this board posting for help if you did. You need to leave. Some marriage problems can't be fixed. Pack and go. Don't look behind. Pray to your one Creator to help you and guide you. Its God's world and he makes everything work in synchrony together. Pray to God your one Creator to help you and lead you and guide you and provide for you. It will be okay. Where do you live? Are your inlaws the kind of dangerous people to come after you afterwards?

But don't kill yourself. Dont lose all that you have. Don't kill that inner soul and spirit of a beautiful woman you are that your inlaws/hubby have tried to destroy. Don't take your own life. The pain won't end if you do. It will just pass on to those you left behind here and to your ownself in the hereafter.

Please let me know where you are at. Have u tried locating any local women shelters/ or help organizations?


Be Brave replied. Dear friend,
If you have made up your mind to leave him and believe that the recent attitude of your husband and inlaws is natak then you should leave him.
But before you do that I would like to ask..Does he or inlaws abuse you physically?
In that case, you dont have to even think twice. Just make a clean break.
In case this is a different kind of problem kindly explain in detail maybe there is some way to make things better.
Tony S replied. Please calm down. Take a walk, listen to soothing music, eat a chocolate or something and feel good. Then come back here and write in details about your problems. We can help u solve them. Calm it lady . U r strong and good. Dont talk or think negatively. Calm down.