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hi everyone
i am really really confused. problem is politics of my mil. she keeps on talking to my husband and she always discuss my sils with him. they are pretty and all the time my mil praises them and in turn my husband also keeps on praising them. now that is one thing the main problem is she is controlling my hubby's life and in turn i and my two kids have to suffer. right now we are in u.s and a but she is in india but she has got green card. nowmy one sil has migrated to canada and we are also canada immigrants but right now we have no plans to move to canada but my mil is constantly nagging her son to go to canada where my sil is. i don't want to go but the pressure is so much that i don't know what to do. she wants us to go there because then my fil ang mil will also come there and then they have plans to sponsor my other sil who is in india right now. and i don't want to be near them. because before coming to u.s i stayed with my mil and fil for six years and i know they made my life hell now if i imagine myself to be with them it gives me lot of trouble. now can anybody tell me how can i stop my husband to go to canada. because for him whatever they decide is fine, but i can't really handle them.and second how can i tell my husband to reduce talking to his mother and in turn praising his sisters. its been 10 years since i got married but my mil still has an upper hand on him. i am fed up with their plans to control my life, they use my husband to control me . please someone advice me to handle such tricky lady. i just hate her like anything she has made my life hell. please tell me otherwise i will do something to myself. Tony S replied. Dear Sonia, U need to focus completely on your relationship with your husband and all 4 of u (with 2 kids) as ONE SINGLE UNIT. try to make your husband realise that the one most imp. relation in life is that of life partners. u should spend time doing things together. this could include going on trips or even cleaning the house. it helps u bond together. and most imp. doont forget about your sex life. u should be really intimate at least 2 or 3 times a week. this way your husband will be more interested in u than his sisters. go out with friends . develop similar activities etc. this way his mind will be totally on u and the kids and he will start feeling that his mom and sisters are interfering. as they are. all the best. cheer up