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Hi eveyone i need advice from all of you.This is not an in law related question but i am really very confused.I have posted here before,many times,mostly to vent out my in laws problems and got some great advice.
I have been diagnosed with an ovarian cyst a few months back.I was having pain and other health problems since jan/feb.i had gone to stay with my brother(who's a doctor) in another dtate for few months.
Now the thing is this seems to be a persistant cyst.It's not going away,causing other problems and might need surgery. In my family only hubby and I and my brother knows about it.I would'nt dare to tell my in laws as they will then think i am infertile or something.
Now for my parents.Like all parents they love me so much.They are going to apply for visa soon and might come here in USA in october this year.My dad is a very experienced doctor in India.
I have given them a lot of tension due to my in laws in my last trip to india and just immediately after my marriage 2 n half years ago.
They both have bp and all and they (esp dad)gets so so worried when he knows something is wrong with me.
I want to know if this is a good time to tell them about the cyst.The bad thing will of course be undue tension that they will take.
The good thing will be i might feel lighter(or maybe more guily...can't say)
I will be able to take advice from them which i badly need.
I am also scared that when they visit,what if i fall sick during that time.they will know then but in an unpleasant hasty manner.
I am as it is very scared about the cyst and have had too much gas also lately which could mean trouble and which could mean this is not just a cyst.I will know only if i get surgery.
My gynaec has asked me to take birth control pills to see if that will help.
I have read elsewhere and also been told by my family practioner here that bc pills do not help shrink an already formed cyst.I am confused about this also and would love to get some advice from you.
I have always had regular periods and do not like the idea of taking hormones,and am worried about the side effects.
So my main worries are
Do i tell my parents about my health.
What is your advice about Birth control pills.
Have any of you or a relative experienced complex ovarian cysts before.
Thanks a lot friends
Sabs Friend replied. I think u should not wait and just tell your father. since he is an experienced Dr., he will be able to organise some proper plan to get you cured from this. Viz he will leverage his experience to get you to see a specialist in this field and help you provide the best of care and surgery, if required. Just tell him all and like the nice affirmative story of 'a friend' u will be able to get rid of this cyst and conceive and be happy.

So just relax and go about it.

All the best wishes to you! friend replied. hai sabs,
you need not worry for your cyst even i had polycystic ovaries i came to know when i could not conceive even after two years of my marriage. During my visit to india to my parents place i came to know i had cyst on my ovaries and which could be removed by doing laproscopy (small operation) i spoke to my husband and then taking his consent i did the operation and came back to my inlaws place without their knowledge. and then doctor advised me to wait and see whether i can conceive in six months time or take pills to conceive. i took pills and atlast conceived and now i am happy with my baby and my husband. this was not possible without my parents permission. do not worry its not a big deal just go ahead and tell them they will surely help u.


sam replied. wait and watch till Oct..and if u fall sick while they r here..tell them then.
see... u know better how u'r parents r and by telling them how badly or not they will take. What is u'r bro and hubby's advice. If u'r bro is doc too what does he say.
When do u need surgery done.
Take one step at a time..and everything will fall in place.