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Name: Sanya

Look Beeno, basically the bottom line is that you have to make a decision. If you feel that your efforts in trying to change your husband are going to waste then you should think of leaving him and looking for someone who not only you are attracted too sexually but whom you share things in common with eg.. you can have a good talk in the evening, do stuff together as a couple etc etc.. but you also have to factor that if you take a divorce and you get custody of your girl then this new man has to accept and love her. Ofcourse no man could match up to her daddy but there are some good men out there who love their step children like their own.

Please don't think of having affairs just for sexual fulfilment because it will leave you feeling guilty and you won't gain anything out of them. Instead better to get divorce and then start afresh.

I advise you not to suffer silently and live your whole life unhappily just for the sake of culture or that is the right thing to do for a woman. Pray who decides women are the sacrificing goats when men can go around sowing their oats as and when they feel like.

If you were unattractive and your husband was handsome and in your situation where he wasn't attracted to you believe me he wouldn't even consult a forum he would already be sleeping around. And this is a fact.

But just for the sake of your marriage give it a chance, work on it, go for counselling like others advise, try even talking about it openly with your husband and lay your cards out that look this...this...this I don't like and needs to change otherwise our marriage is fizzling out. I am sure he will act. Give it even a year before making any decision.

All the best and remember be happy in life coz you only live once.

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