Parents of Schoolgoers  Discussion Forum

hi there,
writing on this message board for the first time.
my problem is not exactly of in laws but my MIL's brother(mama) and his family.
my husband has only 1 bro and no sis and mama has 2 daughters no boy. my hubby always taught bo mom that they are ur real sis and used to send loads of gifts and cash for practically no reasons even when they are well off.
after my marriage, both the sis feel irritated by my presence becoz their freedom and gifts got restricted. my husband says fault mightbe in ur interpretation.
the elder sis shouted on me on my son's 1st b'day in front of so many guest in a party place even then my husband told me to go n say sorry to her and i did.
i'm sick of getting insulted every now n thn
elder sis is getting married now and i dont feel like going there but i'm not stopping my husband.
he wants me to come along
i called up at their place to congratulate and once again that mama was delibratley rude to me

from the first day they have some apprehensions abt me but i really dont know where they came from (probably the lessoning of gifts and cash irritates them becoz i told my MIL not to guide me on how to spend money as she is so extravagant. she used to tell me to save 1 rs. of ironing clothes though her 3-4 sarees of Rs. 5 each go for dry cleaning usually)

SUGGEST WHETHER I SHD GO???????????
ANSWER FAST???
hope to get some support soon

thanx tania replied. hey i think u just go now but if in future she will insult u again then don't be quiet, just insult her back say whatever u can to insult her as well bcoz 'jitna jukoge utna hi ye dunia jukati hai'
i also see a lot of things in my life after marriage just remember to do TIT FOR TAT. help replied. hey
listen dont u know the men category. if u dont go, then he will not go on any of ur relatives marriage saying that if u didnt go, then why shud i???
u betta go, dont let him take over u, u dont know husbands Q replied. if you feel you owe your husband and he has taken care of you in times of your need, AND you can put up with a little bit of snubbery - GO.

If all of your tolerance goes wasted on your husband and his family and they your husband really has never helped you - DONT GO.

If you decide to go, expain to your husband and his family, that you wish the best for both the girls, but wont put up with any abuse. Give a 15% leeway, coz people wont change overnite but if it goes beyond that, protest to the family calmly without much hulla gulla.

Just make a guest appearance and get out of there ASAP!

After the sister gets marraied, she will realise the other side of the coin too hopefully. disturbed and sad replied. rs 5 for ironing. dont get me wrong