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Role of in-laws:Women ...Be independent

2003-10-05

Name: TheBest The only way to solve the IN-LAW problem is to be financially independent.

I am a working woman, who is married to a nice man who has HORRIBLE parents. Let me tell you, they gave me lots of grief. For the first few months I took it, then I told my husband...I cant spend my life with these nasty folks and got a job in a new city.

My in-laws under this new situation have been ever so nice to me. They treat me very well when I visit them.

So ASSERT yourself. Be strong and nobody can treat you badly

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2003-10-07

Name: leena
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yep

I totally agree with you. In fact I find it waste today to stay with ILs the whole day - cook, clean, gossip and listen to their nonsense. At one pt I was laid off & my MIL was visiting us. I was so scared that I have to spend time with whole day. I immediately took up a job in next few weeks. Job gives you security, sense of independence and you dont find urself a worthless maid. I wonder how housewives handle their ILs 24x7. It is very depressing and futile to be in that circle of cooking, cleaning, attending some stupid religious functions and catering to their needs. I dont want to sound too harsh as I know I would be old some day. But the role of a DIL is very hopeless esp our Indian way. Gals need to be smart to have a independent life out of house (before marraige) so they waste it with ILs.

2004-04-13

Name: sheila
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messy house

I agree with you, but what do you do when your inlaws are from India and after working all day you have to come home to a messy house. The worst part is your husband does not say anything to them. help!

2003-10-06

Name: kkk
Subject:

becoming independent

hi,
I totally agree with u in this matter....becoming fin. indep. is a solution to a lot of probs,but sometimes a girl realises this after marriage.If she has had no previous job experience ,it becomes very difficult for her to find one after marriage.This can add to her woes.
So all those soon-to-be married gals think abt it...

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