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Role of in-laws:nagging for having kids....

2003-10-03

Name: sonika I am 27yrs old.I got married 4 months back and already my MIL is after me to have kids!!!
I am under a lot of pressure now bcoz my SIL is now pregnant with a second child .Not just my MIL but her MIL,My MIL's sis and all those Not-so-imp relatives keep pressurising me to have kids coz now i am 27 and it has already been 4months!!!
I don't know what to do...please help....

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2003-11-25

Name: info
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expectations

There is no end of expectations.

2003-10-03

Name: indian gal
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turn a deaf ear

Dear, You have to learn the skills of 'turning a deaf ear' to your ILs/relatives etc. Thats a v.v.important skill needed for an indian DIL/wife to acquire within first few months of marraige. Getting all worked up or nagging ur hubby won't do any good. If you have already decided to wait for X yrs before you have kids JUST DONT EXPLAIN YOUR STAND. Let them know they will know when you decide to have kids. Brush off the topic to something else. Get urself busy to enjoy ur newly married ILs(read hassle) free life. How does it matter whether ur SIL has 2 or 10 kids, thats her problem!!!Do not discuss or try to justify to ur hubby how his mother is a nut.

2003-10-03

Name: crux
Subject:

Hope this helps

Hi sonika,

There is nothing strange in your ILs pressurizing you. Most people think that women ought to have kids soon once they have crossed mid twenties. It all depends whether you and your husband are prepared for it. Why don't you discuss with your husband about it? Regarding kids its you and your husband who will be responsible finally. If you are working then you can ignore your ILs pressure and put your mind to work.

crux

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