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hi all,
my inlaws are coming for summer vavction this summer.We are in US.Last time when they had come for the delivery,i had a very bad time.I had thought till then that iam very lucky that i got good inlaws. This time i'll be open & if i am hurt, ia m going to say whatever i feel in front of my hubby & my inlaws.in other words,i'll be strong..
goodluck to all the DILs Just me replied. Hey Rashmi,

Dealing with in-laws!

* Never ever talk bad about your MIL to your husband - remember he might believe his Mother, even if she is the bad one, because its his mother!

* Never ever let MIL take care of the house when they are in US. It will come back and bit YOU! Some day or the other, your husband will say, Afterall, she did all the cooking for us! Do evverything good for them in front of your HUSBAND

* Deal with your in-laws when your husband is not home. The first thing is: No one ever want to be treated irrespectfully. If they torture you, give them 0 importance when your husband is away, and give them 110 % when your husband is home. When you treat them bad, they will complain to your husband. But whenever he sees you, you always treat them nice, now your husband doesn't belive his mother/father :-)

All the best julyborn replied. Yes, i too think its good to confront them in front of hubby. But do that very carfully....do it as if u r just clearing a point or issue....don't do as if u r accusing them...then ur hubby will feel bad if u make it was accussing them.....We should be very very tactful as our in-laws are.....

Being open with them, i think is very good approach....that way they own limit with us....they will think before doing or saying something...... tejmom replied. you r right!!! if u do that u will be a good example for other dils. diamond replied. Yeah, I agree with you. Don't be afraid, be bold and stand up for your self. Set boundaries with your in-laws that clearly define what is off-limits in your marriage.

You do your part as a good DIL, give them love & respect but if they treat you like dirt,confront them then & there. Don't even wait for your husband. Make it very clear to them- pyar doge to pyar milega, nafrat doge to nafrat milegi.

Even I am going 2 do the same thing when they are here or I go 2 India. I won't keep quiet anymore.They should know we too can speak.

Humari khamoshi ko humari kamzori na samje.

Good luck- keep posting.