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My mom-inlaw went at me again last week just as usual. This time she told me I was too old for marriage. And that I should be glad that finally it did happen (the marriage). No matter how old I was at the time of my wedding, who gave her the right to tell me that? Why does she forget all etiquette while speaking with me. My hubby says, shes one of our own thats why its okay for her to tell me that. My own parents have never told me that. They know where to draw the line. Plus the MIL never considers me one of her own when it comes to love. My whole weekend was ruined. I know by being mad at her like this I give her the power to upset me. Ladies help me out here. life replied. Hey novborn
I would request you to evaluate your MIL's nature. Would she really accept her mistake if she hears a confrontation from you? or would she become more bully and irritate you more. I strongly believe that confrontation should be with people who are of equal mental status. Otherwise no point. It is like throwing stone on keechad. Why unnecessary get into much more trouble. If you are MIL is matured enough than please go ahead and have a conversation with her. Otherwise no point. Think this way..if I do this talking will it improve my relation or will I be happy in future? if not just ignore..... vd replied. Please talk to her about this directly. No ifs and buts. Tell her that you do not like this nagging and she has to be careful the way she is speaking. There is no point crying and ignoring. If you are hurt, talk about it like a mature person . a friend replied. hey girl u made me laugh \";.../fart like her...\";
oh god, how can u do that...
I am still laughing ha ha ha...
a friend replied. I guess you should ignore such petty things. My mil always taunts me that \";what her son has seen in me n agreed to marry me\";, btw I am good looking, professionally qualified n in comparison to other dils of the house I am the most soft spoken girl (I am not bragging, but my hubby's aunt always says all this). Everyone likes me in his family except for my mil becuse my hubby married me against her wishes. So dear there r many mil who r even worst than urs. As life said \";God has given us two ears. One for entry and one exit...just think that way. Smile and ignore.\";
good luck! augustborn replied. Hey Novborn
You need to speak to her about this...She has no right to talk to you the way she does. If you keep quiet about these things, she will take you for granted and assume that she can get away with saying anything to you.
BTW how did you react when she said that to you?
Its good that you spoke to your husband about this, but dont expect any help from that quarter..fight your own battles...Take her comments headon and demand an explanation. Trust me, she will think twice before saying anything rude to you again because she will know that you wont stand for that and bullies are very bad at confrontation..... life replied. Hey Novborn

I could see in your query itself you have found the answer that by being mad you have given the power to upset. Well, I guess you should raise above all her comments and just smile and change the topic abruptly.
Dont even give a hint to her that you are hurt. The more you show her the more she tries to irritate.
It is good that you updated your husband and I would suggest dont take his opinion seriously, bcoz nobody will say \";Yes my MOm is bad\";
God has given us two ears. One for entry and one exit...just think that way. Smile and ignore.
Pray God to give her some good sense.