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My 4 yr old daughter is extremely timid and feels scared of other aggressive kids who are in a habit of hitting and shouting. She cannot fight for her own belongings and gives it away to others always only to cry herself later on.

She is highly sensitive and cannot react if somebody beats her or hurts her even if the child is 1-2 yrs old.

I feel that it is not healthy to be so submissive and its a sign of low self confidence and self esteem.

The problem continues even after 1 yr of school and almost everyday she comes back as a loser from the school. It hurts and all my efforts have failed to make her emotionally / mentally strong.

ANY SUGGESTIONS. Aliyah replied. Maybe you don't spank or hit or yell much, but the other parent may. If this is the case, that might be part of the problem. Also, if the mother is submissive, especially to the husband, this can lead to such problems with the child. For now, maybe let her watch some shows with superheros that go around stopping bad guys who tease & bully & steal so she can see that it's good to stand up for yourself & those other kids aren't better than she is. Also, maybe take her to lessons for karatie or some sort of physical activity that will make her feel strong. She won't fight but she'll know she's not weak and that she's capable of defending herself. Also maybe rehearse with her specific things she can say (realistic -- not like what a 40 year old would say) to the kids when they do things to her. Also alert the teacher to the problem -- they are responsible for her well being at school. Suman replied. It seems that Either you spank your child or yell at her when angry so she
is afraid of anybody who yells at her.She might be yelling at youngers when angry.she is having low self esteem
you have got to give her quality time and boost her self esteem. stargazer replied. Hi,

Some children have difficulties in confident socializing with peers. When I was young I was a very shy girl too but now things have changed.

Talk to your daughter and ask her about her friends or her classmates. start a conversation with a very casual approach and talk about her school, friends and maybe she'll come out with her problems.

If my daughter had the same issue, I'd first TALK. I'd try to make her socialize with her age children by calling a couple of her friends over for a sleep over or a play date sorta thing.
The point is...when the child starts socializing with small groups of people, she'll become more comfortable in interacting and being with children and this could be a slow process but it surely will help.
There are lots of books available that can be read to children facing certain problems.

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