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Hi ,MY son is 11 years old in 6th Std and in one of the best schools in the city,he was brought up in a very playful atmosphare,still now he wants to play with toys and guns.I want this is the time to be serious in studies,he should understand his responsibilties.so when i ask him to study ,to bring his books he simply sits in front of me as statue.I tried to scold him,lure him with gifts but of no use.he wont buzz at all.i am worried about his future.In studies he is just normal. Aliyah replied. That's right, and also don't buy him new things for a while. WHen he sees this it gives him a reason to be bad, because he knows that if he's bad for a while then once he stops he gets a gift. Do as the other person said -- schedule playtime in at the end of each day once studying is done. It's normal for him to still want to play all the time, and at that age lots of talk about being serious and the importance of an education will just seem boring to him. You don't have to explain to him -- you know it's right and he needs to do what you say because you're in charge. He doesn't have to like it now, but you know that someday he'll be glad you are forcing him to study. Also maybe ground him from tv if he doesn't do as he's told. But be sure to tell him he's intelligent and praise him when he listens to you and especially when he does what he should without first being asked. L singh replied. I would take his loving toys away, when he does as you have asked only then give them back. If he is still ignoring your requests explain to him the importance of his education and let him know you will not back down and continue to be firm with him. If you dont follow through with what you tell him he will learn that he does not have to listen because you wont do anything. Make a schedule for him with play time and study time on it. At the end of the week, if he has followed the schedule and not ignored your requests then you reward him. Not to be mean but I think he sees you have a soft heart and wont do anything about it. Let him know you mean business and that you are not going to back down on the subject.
I wish you the best and I hope your young son starts to work with you. YOu sound like a wonderful mother but you are being easy on him. There is no need to get physical at all, if he loves to play so much then I would take his play things away for a while.