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The movement of "Control Population" was started way back in 1900's. From India R.D. Karve started this movement from his own home, living without child. That time India's population was merely 30 Crore. But he had vision to see that one day this is will be the root cause of every social disorder that may arise in future. And it is today! Today when we have already crossed 1 Billion Mark, 100's of children dying due to malnutrition, problem of water is becoming severe and severe, year after year, Consumer index is zooming up like anything, to what extent it is right to go for second child, even if we have capacity to support 2? I am facing problem for not having second child. My daughter is feeling lonely and keeps on asking when our baby will arrive. I am not able to decide whether to go for it or not. Yes, adoption is the best option for me and I would have really liked to go for it. But my wife is not for it. And without mutual agreement it is definitely not wise to go for adoption. As this can only aggravate the problem for the adopted child, my daughter as well as family as whole. My wife is not even ready to discuss this option. On the other hand my conscience is not allowing me to simply neglect the biggest problem of starvation and population growth. Because if you study in deep any social problem now existing, finally you will come to conclusion that the root cause is uncontrolled population growth!
Even all Docs I consulted are advising for 2 children only. Anybody who can help/guide me to decide on this issue? Aliyah replied. Hi! I can understand your daughter -- it makes kids feel important to have a younger sibbling, and it's someone to play with. Try to let her play alot with other children her age, and if she has cousins maybe try to get them together alot. She won't understand really now about problems with overpopulation. If your wife is really longing for another child and you have the time & resources to bring both children up as good members of society, then you should allow your wife this desire of her heart. You can probably do more to help with this overpopulation problem by donating money or volunteering for groups that educate on birth-control and keeping famileies small. Family planning -- distributing condoms to poor families and advertising on tv, papers & radio with social organisations is very important -- and the difference you can make thru that is much greater than the difference of the second child you may or may not have, especialy since the child would be well cared for and with a father like you will grow up to help better society. In the mean time for your daughter's sake, let her plant a garden or a little tree somewhere to take care of, and even better, let her have a pet that will play with her & will require her attention, like a dog or a goat or a cat. But keep in mind that if you don't have alot of extended family, when your daughter grows up she may be lonely, especially as you & her mother age. Hope it works out well. Anu replied. One is enough. As you rightly said you cant adopt for your wife isnt liking it. Well, there are other ways to help out like some organisations help you sponser a child or two. You could go once in a while and spend time with them too. You wife shouldnt simd this. You could take your kid to such places as that would help him/her understand the life better. Kids would know how previliged they are and also how much difference it makes to have parents like you.