Name: Feb Born
Hi,
I am a reader of this site and feel I should share my story to all of u wonderful people.
I think my story here differs from most of the members who have troubles with their in laws. I can understand their feelings and wish they get on with their life on their own terms as they want.
I am telling you guys my story to show that there is still hope in this world of manipulative inlaws and bossy MILs..
I met my husband online on a matrimonial site. We talked and wrote to each other and decided to get married. I am from North India (Delhi) and he is from Kerala. (Though He speaks good Hindi like any north Indian because he is from a boarding school up north. But his parents know a very little Hindi !)When he told his parents that he is talking to a girl form North India, they were surprized but still they trust him on his decision. Both the families talked and decided to meet. Both were concerned about getting along as english is the medium of speaking for both of them..My parents don't know Malayalm and My Parents-in-law could only speak in broken Hindi..But anyhow..
To cut the long story short, we got married.My MIL did whtever she could to make me feel comfortable in new culture, new family and new language. She never forced me to learn malayalam (as feared by some of my own relatives). She always prepare north Indian food for me though I love south Indian food. To my surprize, she never let me cook whenever I am in India. She says that I cook food in US, and here I am at vacation! She told me jokingly that when I come to USA, you prepare food for me but here you enjoy!
Girls, its not a made up story to make you feel better, but its a real story of my life. Ispite of having differnt language, different culture, differnet food habits, I feel so close to them. My FIL sends me these real cool emails, jokes, details about Kearal culture to meke me familiar with the state. They are as loving as my own parents towards me. I read on this board that In laws don't call their DIL's families , but my MIl and FIL call my parents regualrly(ofcourse my parents also talk to them on regular basis).
My MIL thinks I am the best suitable DIL for her son. Whenever I call her up, she never forgets to tell me to call my parents and my didi-jijaji!! Last time when I was in India I stayed at my parents' house in Delhi for 3 weeks and at my inlaws for 3 weeks, and this all was her idea. I take sarees for my MIL from delhi when I go to kerala. You guys won't believe, when I am at my sasural, my MIL always buy a nice silk saree for my Mom as a gift!!. She colects all those nice things (sarees, jewelery, even small things like bindi!!) for me too and show them with so much enthusiasm when I meet her.
She still call up and ask if I am doing exercise daily, and if her son takes me out for dinner etc?:-)
My parents are so happy and I feel so lucky to have found a sasural like my own Family..
When My Mom told me about my inlwas to some of my own relatives they said my MIL treats me good caus I don't have a SIL. Some of my relatives told my mother that because I am staying so far away I am happy and if I were living with my MIl, it would have been a different story. Well I don't know about that But today all I can say is if I could become a MIL half as good as my MIL, my DIL will be the luckiest girl on this planet!
I hope I deserve all the love, care and respect my Inlwas give me and I could become an ideal DIL for them too..
am happy for you
Thank you for sharing!
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