
Negative parenting techniques cause irreparable damage to the growth and development of kids. Let us take a look at 5 negative parenting styles and their negative effects on kids.Negative parenting techniques happen because of wrong mindsets, inability to learn and lack of empathy for kids. Parents who follow negative techniques of parenting usually end up harming their children and damaging them psychologically. Unfortunately, many parents are not even aware that their style of parenting is negative. Here are some negative parenting styles and their associated consequences that will help you grow more aware as a parent.
1. Authoritarian Parenting Style
The use of
punishment and force to bring in
good behaviour from children is the hallmark of an Authoritarian parenting style. Often the use of force causes the child to become angry, withdrawn and deceitful. Scientific research has detected 70% depressive tendencies in preschool kids who had parents believing in authoritarian style. This style also encourages kids to be inflexible and rigid in adulthood thus creating adjustment problems in both personal and professional life.
2. Permissive with Indifference Parenting
Permissive parenting is where the parent allows the child to make own decisions or allows the incorporation of the views of children. Though permissive parenting is not a bad style, when carried to an extreme it becomes permissive with indifference parenting where the parent is perceived to be indifferent to the good and bad outcomes of the child. Children who sense that their parents are uninvolved and detached become withdrawn or aggressive. In their need to seek attention they may also become antisocial.
3. Manipulative Parenting
Reward and punishment techniques are frequently and unnecessarily used by parents who follow the manipulative parenting model. Such parents often resort to false statements and trickery in order to extract desired behaviour from their children. When children discover that such deceit is resorted to by their parents they automatically develop an idea that it is okay to manipulate people into doing what you want them to do by using trickery and deceit. Obviously such children do not grow up with a very healthy mindset. Later on they experience problems in their personal life because of their inability to maintain honesty in the relationship.
4. Over indulgent Parenting
The over indulgent parent is keen on giving in to each and every wish and demand of their kids. There is also a tendency to do their children’s work for them. It is common for an overindulgent parent to pull strings in order to make their kids win some contest or score well in a test. The overindulgent parent caters to every desire of children and in the process stunts their mental growth. Kids of such parents never develop adequate self confidence to tackle their problems on their own. They remain largely dependent on their parents till the end and usually are at a loss when parents are no longer around. Such kids also
grow up to be irresponsible and greedy often demanding things that they do not deserve at all.
5. Inconsistent Parenting
Inconsistent parenting has often been cited as the worst style of parenting by psychiatrists. Inconsistent parents often try on one style of parenting and then some other style to see which works best for them and their kids. In this process they end up confusing the children and send out wrong signals. Children by nature crave stability and comfort in routine and inconsistent style of parenting is anti routine. These parents often unknowingly inculcate a fear of abandonment and instability in their children. Their kids also grow up exhibiting inconsistent styles of behaviour which creates problems in their social, professional and personal life.
Now that you know all about which styles of parenting are bad and their associated negative consequences you will be able to identify your own
parenting mistakes and develop a better style of parenting.
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