The need of emotional
support to teenagers is immense as they are in a period of transition from
childhood to adulthood. Find out the reasons
why the teenagers need your emotional support.
The transition from childhood to adulthood happens during the teenage years. This is a
stage when teenagers have this strong urge to forge their own identity and
state their individuality, while at the same time they want to remain under the
safe cocoon of parental care. This is surely a tricky time as they want to
assert independence and simultaneously cannot bear the situation where they are
totally left alone by their parents.
It is a very vulnerable stage as parents need to provide a strong emotional
support to the teenager. You need to realise that this is indeed a
difficult time as the teen is trying his best to cope with the wide array of
emotional and physical changes that he is experiencing. All the confusion has
their root on this very fact.
Why do Teenagers Need Emotional Support?
Here are some reasons why the teenagers need
your emotional support even more.
Protection and Enhancement of Self-Esteem
The status of self-esteem is very subtle and volatile in the teenage
years. They are in the constant need for approval from adults and especially
their peer group. In every generation, teens want to “fit in” to their peer
group. They feel that unless and until they are considered to be a part of
their peer group and accepted there, it is a serious issue as per their social
We find teens going to any extent and even dabble in undesirable
activities, only to ensure that they are considered a part of their peer group. This is why parents need to provide a great
deal of emotional support. They need to be assured that they are great in their
own personalities and are cared for and respected for who they are. They need a
consistent boost to their morale so that their self-esteem does not take a
beating from any inconsequential factors.
Enhanced Focus on Positivity
With the extreme vulnerable state of the teen’s psyche, it is important
that the parents act as a support pillar where the teen can fall back on
whenever he feels like. Every teen, even if he or she is passing through a
difficult phase and you are finding it very hard to deal with him, you will
find that there are certain positive attributes in his behaviour and actions. Appreciate them adequately and
show how pleased you are that they have this quality in them. This will give
rise to an encouragement to follow other positive directive that you provide,
but in a subtle manner. Remember strict directives in the form of instruction
will only make him more rebellious.
To Help Them Understand Their Mistakes
Many parents end up making the mistake of focusing too much on the
mistakes committed by the teenager and thinks that punishing them for it in some way or the other will help him
not to repeat. But then you find that the teen has turned rebellious and is
likely to repeat the action again and again. He sort throws a challenge at you
on how far you can go and then tries the limits of your patience big time.
Experts suggest that the best way to deal with mistakes is to take it
casually and not make a big deal of it. Give an impression to the teen that you
have forgotten it and it does not matter any more. Then after a passage of some
time, say a couple of days later, when you find the teen in his jolly self,
start a conversation with him casually. Then you can bring up the topic in a
subtle manner and explain how the mistake has caused or has the potential to
cause harm to the teen or his family. This way the teen will be in a better
position to understand the seriousness and the possible repercussions of the
mistake and will make a note that he does not repeat himself. So, without
creating a tense atmosphere, you will be able to drive your point home.
Finally, perhaps the most vital point to remember, you must check the
words you use in your conversation with your teen. Teens are very sensitive at
heart even as much as they try to portray that they are very hardy and are not
bothered with anything. Parents always occupy a special place in the heart of
the teen and he gets most affected by the way you talk to him and treat him.
Always make sure that you show your love and affection towards him and do not
be judgmental every time. These will work as the much needed assurance that he
will be loved for the person that he is and that you are only concerned about
his well-being and not being intrusive or imposing.